tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30386466180728533862024-03-12T18:56:24.014-07:00ReflectionsReflectionshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03010760472450797448noreply@blogger.comBlogger371125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3038646618072853386.post-62562454519980742422015-07-18T08:24:00.000-07:002015-07-18T08:24:03.775-07:00 I did so many mistakes in past and I feel guilty for it. This makes me sad.Is there anyway to forget past?<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
Dear Friend<br />
Past is past. You do not need to bother about and being sad. It’s
over. There is no future no past. Only one thing exists ‘This moment’ or
‘Present’. Enjoy it, Embrace it but in full awareness and intelligence
then you will find that there is only happiness around.<br />
Similar kind of question was asked with me in one of me Samvaad
Session. Here is the transcription read it. It will help you more.<br />
<strong><a href="http://www.comparinggenie.com/code/r.php?r=http%3A%2F/search.yahoo.com/search%3Fp%3Dquestion&t=search.yahoo.com%2F&did=6&type=bl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank" title="Search for question">Question </a>:</strong>
Sir, I often get affected by others. I depend on others to tell me what
is right and what is wrong, and when that happens I often find myself
regretting<a href="http://www.comparinggenie.com/code/r.php?r=http%3A%2F/search.yahoo.com/search%3Fp%3Dlater&t=search.yahoo.com%2F&did=6&type=bl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank" title="Search for later"> later.</a><a href="http://www.comparinggenie.com/code/r.php?r=http%3A%2F/search.yahoo.com/search%3Fp%3Dlater&t=search.yahoo.com%2F&did=6&type=bl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank" title="Search for later">Later,</a> I feel disappointed that why did I allow myself to be affected by <a href="http://prashantadvait.com/2013/12/21/why-do-i-get-affected-by-others/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank" title="Why do I get affected by others?">others</a>‘ opinions, words, actions and whatsoever. How to have no regrets?<br />
<strong>Speaker :</strong> I would be very happy even if there is a single individual who understands what this ‘right and wrong’ are all about.<br />
You see, we talked of two layers of education. Similarly, there are
two layers of ‘right and wrong’. The first layer deals with ‘right and
wrong’ which are specific to time, place, country, occasion and many
other variables. Such ‘rights and wrongs’ keep changing. What is right
in one country is wrong in another country, what is wrong in one house
is right in another. At the same place, what was right few years back is
considered wrong now.<br />
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For sure, there is nothing sacred or unchanging about these ‘rights and wrongs’.<br />
The first layer of ‘rights and wrongs’. They are man-made, they keep
changing. There is no point holding them as sacred. There is no point
asking somebody that am I right or am I wrong, because all that somebody
can give is his opinion. And these ‘rights and wrongs’ of the first
type are nothing but opinions of people.<br />
One religion says that something is right, the other says same thing
is wrong. One religion says sacrifice animals, the other religion says
that it is evil to kill even a small insect. In the same country, what
is wrong in one state, is right in another. This first layer of ‘rights
and wrongs’ is all man-made, somebody’s opinion, somebody’s thought.
There is nothing absolute about them at all, and hence there is not much
worth in them.<br />
There is another type of ‘right’, another type of ‘wrong’, that comes
not from the society, or law, or convention, or religion, or anybody
else. That right is your own intelligence.<br />
To act with your own intelligence is the only absolute right. And to not to live in your<a href="http://prashantadvait.com/2014/08/05/live-life-in-your-own-light/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank" title="Live life in your own Light">intelligence</a>, to live an unconscious life is the only absolute wrong.<br />
We have no understanding of this second layer of ‘right and wrong’.
We live in the first one. We think that just because something is
acceptable in the society, or is alright in the law, so it is right. And
we think whatever is not acceptable in our homes, or in our
corporations, is wrong. That is very-very superficial. I do not say that
violate the law, but know in your heart, know fully well with great
clarity that all that is man-made. There is nothing absolute about it.
There is nothing sacred, nothing fundamental about it.<br />
Life must be lived in your own light, in your own intelligence and
that is ‘right’, and that is the only absolute ‘right’. And the only
mistake that a young man and a young woman can make is to live life
according to others. That is the only wrong that you can do. Avoid that
wrong for your own sake. And then you won’t have to regret<a href="http://www.comparinggenie.com/code/r.php?r=http%3A%2F/search.yahoo.com/search%3Fp%3Dlater&t=search.yahoo.com%2F&did=6&type=bl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank" title="Search for later"> later</a>on.<br />
-Excerpts from a Samvaad session. Edited for clarity.<br />
View the session at :<a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fmjbGu8kk2Y" rel="nofollow" target="_blank" title="Prashant Tripathi: How to have no regrets?"> http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fmjbGu8kk2Y</a><br />
<a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fmjbGu8kk2Y" rel="nofollow" target="_blank" title="Prashant Tripathi: How to have no regrets?">
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07426461466985611516noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3038646618072853386.post-90308175991262708052015-07-18T08:21:00.001-07:002015-07-18T08:21:36.811-07:00How do i know whether i am aware?<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
Dear,<br />
What you call as ‘knowing’ is just thinking. It is a mental activity.
Do you know of anything that is beyond the mind? You know of so many
things in this world. Right? List them and see whether anything that you
know is beyond time and space. Whatever you know of is a thing of
thought.<br />
You are asking, “How to know that I am aware?” You are asking, “How
can I ‘think’ about awareness?” You have to see who is asking this
question. Thought is asking this question so that it can capture
awareness within its limits. Is that possible? Why are we interested in
knowing that whether I am aware?<br />
I recently received a message from a lady asking that how can I know
whether I am enlightened. She had some sneaking suspicion that she is
enlightened. She wanted a certificate that she is enlightened. What did
she really want? She wanted something to ‘think’ about. That’s all.
Thought gives pleasure, thought thrives on pleasure, all pleasure arises
from the thought.<br />
When I say ‘thought’, I am referring broadly to all the mental
activity here. There is no point in this that how do I know whether I am
aware. You will never know that you are aware because the ‘you’ that is
asking this question will not be the aware ‘you’. The ‘you’ that is
asking this question is the ‘you’ that is confused, doubtful, tangled in
all kinds of suspicion.<br />
The aware ‘you’, would that ask this question? Would that ‘you’
bother to ask this question? That’s a ‘knowing’ of a very different
kind. There you do not know via thought. There you just know, it’s a
thing of what you all call, soul. I am using the word ‘soul’, it’s a
loose word but it would help you to understand in this context. You just
know without the inter-mediation of thought.<br />
All that we claim to usually know is via the mental apparatus,
always. That is why we don’t really know anything, because it is always
indirect knowledge coming to you via the mind.<br />
Awareness is that the knower himself has changed; the knower is now
the one who does not require the mind to know, he is realized.<br />
Do you understand what is meant by ‘the realized one’? The ‘realized
one’ means that he does not require knowledge anymore, he just knows.
How does he know? He just knows. So it is a stupid question to ask that
how does the realized one know. He just knows; he is realization
himself. When you are ‘realization’, then you don’t require to know via
the mind, and hence there is no proof.<br />
If someone says that prove that you know or show the source from
where you know, you cannot show that. Because there is no proof, and you
yourself are the source. So how to show the source? All other knowledge
that you have, because it comes to you via the mind, would always have
some kind of source, located elsewhere. You can go and pinpoint that
source, ‘I got to know from this’.<br />
Awareness means- what I know is not a thing of the mind, it is
emanating from within me. Even ‘within me’ is the loose usage of words.
“I am that, I am that knowing. The knowing is not a part of me. I am
it.”<br />
Now this beats the imagination. You can’t imagine what I am saying,
because if you imagine you will again use the mind. How can you use the
mind to know that state where the mind is not involved? How can you do
that? Getting it? There is no proof. There is no proof of meditative
understanding except the meditation itself. When that understanding
arises, only then you see that it is there. Nobody can convince you, and
nobody can give you even a glimpse of it. Really. It can be induced,
but nobody can hand it over to you.<br />
Do you understand the difference between inducing and handing over?
Inducing it means bringing you to a point where even if for a split
second, even if very partly, you could ‘be that’. Remember, not ‘see
that’, but ‘be that’. And giving it to you means- you are what you are,
yet it can be handed over to you. That is impossible. you remaining what
you are, it cannot be handed over to you, not even a small fraction of
it.<br />
See, our questions are our defense mechanisms. We ask them to protect
ourselves. The question is- how do I know that I am aware? Do you know
what you are doing? Remaining what you are, protecting what you are,
keeping secure what you are or what you believe yourself to be, you
additionally want awareness.<br />
What to do with this kind of attempt? Remaining what you are, you
additionally want a little bit of God. “Can I have two-fifty grams of
Brahman please? That is the size of my pocket. Two-fifty grams is just
all it can hold. Two meters of sky is what I want, remaining what I am.”
Like the householder who looks at the house from his small window, two
metres of sky. But he is better, at least he can look at the sky.<br />
Remaining what you are, you can’t even look at the sky. You live in a
cave, dark cave. No sky is visible from there. You can keep imagining,
on the basis of some stories that you have heard from other dwellers of
the cave. Somebody says that the sky spits fire, somebody says that the
sky is greenish-yellow in color. How do you know the sky? By hearing
fantastic stories from other dwellers of the cave, and staying put
firmly in the cave.<br />
There is no way. Questions and answers can only prompt you. You will
have to leave the cave, you will have to come out, and that will be all.
Then there will be no need to ask any such questions. See, all
scriptures are just an attempt to help you come out. No scripture gives
you divine knowledge. All that the scripture says to you is, “It’s
fantastic out here. Can you please join us?” They are just an
invitation.<br />
Somebody is calling you. You attached to your cave. And somebody from
outside is constantly inviting you. “Can you come out? Will you join
me? It’s good fun here. The weather is so nice, life is cool. And what
more, there is no death here.”<br />
No scripture can give you anything inside the cave. It’s not home
delivery. It is divine deliverance. Divine deliverance is not home
delivery. It is deliverance. Do you understand ‘deliverance’?
‘Deliverance’ means- you understand, you are gone, relieved.<br />
Self-service. Go and get it. Yes, the menu can be served on your
table, so that you tempted to go and get it. So what are the scriptures?
They are menu cards, with nice pictures and description of the dishes.
Obviously you don’t know anything about the dish, but the description is
done in such a way that you are tempted.<br />
“O! Nice. No death. Let me go there.” You are troubled by death, that
is the reason why the scriptures have to say, ‘no death’. You are
troubled by the suffering, so the scriptures have to say, ‘no
suffering’. It’s an invitation, a temptation. “come out, come out, come
out.”<br />
What happens after you come out? It’s good fun.<br />
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07426461466985611516noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3038646618072853386.post-26633948424209603352015-07-18T08:20:00.000-07:002015-07-18T08:20:01.884-07:00What happens after Death? Is these thing are real like Spirit, Ghost, Demons, Angels?<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
Dear<br />
Once similar kind of question was asked to me in one of my Clarity
Session at Advait office. This will help you to understand, I hope by
reading this your all doubts will be clear.<br />
<strong>Question:</strong> Is death, as an event, good or bad experience, if we dissolve our self in the universe after death or to the bigger Self?<br />
<strong>Speaker:</strong> See,<a href="http://www.comparinggenie.com/code/r.php?r=http%3A%2F/search.yahoo.com/search%3Fp%3Dyou&t=search.yahoo.com%2F&did=6&type=bl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank" title="Search for you"> you </a>are sitting here.<a href="http://www.comparinggenie.com/code/r.php?r=http%3A%2F/search.yahoo.com/search%3Fp%3Dyou&t=search.yahoo.com%2F&did=6&type=bl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank" title="Search for you"> You </a>are writing something.<a href="http://www.comparinggenie.com/code/r.php?r=http%3A%2F/search.yahoo.com/search%3Fp%3Dyou&t=search.yahoo.com%2F&did=6&type=bl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank" title="Search for you"> You </a>traveled
a particular distance. How is all of that any less important than an
imaginary moment of death? Nobody ever seems to ask, “What will happen,
when I will sip the next cup of tea?” Nobody seems to ask, “What will
happen when I will breathe next?” Are all these things any less
important? But we all seem to be asking about death.<br />
<span id="more-9426"></span>“<a href="http://prashantadvait.com/death-quotes/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Death</a> is so important. Nothing is important, death is important. Life is not important. Every single moment that<a href="http://www.comparinggenie.com/code/r.php?r=http%3A%2F/search.yahoo.com/search%3Fp%3Dyou&t=search.yahoo.com%2F&did=6&type=bl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank" title="Search for you"> you </a>are living is not important. Death is important.”<br />
And how is death any more important than all these? – Because we are
afraid; because we are shivering to the core. So death is important.
“Sir, is death more important than all these?”<br />
Is death more important than all these?<br />
And suppose I don’t talk of death. Suppose I am the first man on earth who has not seen death.<br />
<strong>Listener:</strong> I won’t be afraid.<br />
<strong>Speaker:</strong> I am not taking about death at all. I don’t know. I am the first man. I have not seen death.<br />
<strong>Listener:</strong> It will have no significance at all.<br />
<strong>Speaker:</strong> Why must I talk of death? There is this…<br />
<strong>Listener:</strong> Existence.<br />
<strong>Speaker:</strong> Yes, and it is factual. It is right there.
My senses are bringing them to me. And there is this mind that wants to
understand all this.<br />
What is death?<br />
<em>(Silence)</em><br />
Do not want to have <a href="http://prashantadvait.com/opinion-quotes/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">opinion</a> about things. <em>Do
not ask how a particular thing will appear in the mirror. Clean the
mirror, polish the mirror, and then everything will appear as it is.</em><br />
<a href="http://pinterest.com/prashantekarshi/present" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"><img alt="As it is" class="aligncenter size-full wp-image-9430" src="https://prashantadvait.files.wordpress.com/2015/07/as-it-is.jpg?w=700" /></a><br />
The same mind that wants to have an opinion about death, also has an opinion about marriage, about<a class="swtqyngudjc" href="http://prashantadvait.com/2015/07/14/forget-the-imaginary-just-attend-to-what-is/#57481261" rel="nofollow" style="background: 0px 0px !important; border: 0px !important; clear: none !important; color: #a65925; float: none !important; font-weight: 700 !important; height: auto !important; margin: 0px 0px 0px 3px !important; overflow: visible !important; padding: 0px !important; text-align: left !important; text-decoration: underline !important; text-indent: 0px !important; vertical-align: baseline !important; width: auto !important;" target="_blank" title="Click to Continue > by Genesis">MONEY<img alt="" src="http://cdncache-a.akamaihd.net/items/it/img/arrow-10x10.png" /></a>,
about life, about disease, about education, work, career, right? It is
the same mind that has an opinion about everything. It’s the same mind
that looks at everything. It’s the same eye? This eye cannot look with
clarity at anything. Can it look clearly at death?<br />
“My life is confused and in knots. I understand nothing. I do not
understand why my wife is upset. I do not understand why there is this
kind of disease in my body. I do not understand anything. Will I
understand death?”<br />
Please understand this: When I said that there is this moment; there is life; there is this and that, why don’t<a href="http://www.comparinggenie.com/code/r.php?r=http%3A%2F/search.yahoo.com/search%3Fp%3Dyou&t=search.yahoo.com%2F&did=6&type=bl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank" title="Search for you"> you </a>speak about that? Why bother yourself with death? It’s the same mind that looks at death, right?<br />
<a href="http://www.comparinggenie.com/code/r.php?r=http%3A%2F/search.yahoo.com/search%3Fp%3Dyou&t=search.yahoo.com%2F&did=6&type=bl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank" title="Search for you">You </a>do not understand what is happening in this room?<a href="http://www.comparinggenie.com/code/r.php?r=http%3A%2F/search.yahoo.com/search%3Fp%3Dyou&t=search.yahoo.com%2F&did=6&type=bl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank" title="Search for you"> You </a>do not understand what is happening on the terrace?<a href="http://www.comparinggenie.com/code/r.php?r=http%3A%2F/search.yahoo.com/search%3Fp%3Dyou&t=search.yahoo.com%2F&did=6&type=bl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank" title="Search for you"> You </a>do not understand what is happening on the road?<a href="http://www.comparinggenie.com/code/r.php?r=http%3A%2F/search.yahoo.com/search%3Fp%3Dyou&t=search.yahoo.com%2F&did=6&type=bl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank" title="Search for you">You </a>do not understand what goes on in your mind? How will<a href="http://www.comparinggenie.com/code/r.php?r=http%3A%2F/search.yahoo.com/search%3Fp%3Dyou&t=search.yahoo.com%2F&did=6&type=bl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank" title="Search for you"> you </a>understand death?<br />
A little dog comes to<a href="http://www.comparinggenie.com/code/r.php?r=http%3A%2F/search.yahoo.com/search%3Fp%3Dyou&t=search.yahoo.com%2F&did=6&type=bl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank" title="Search for you"> you,</a> and<a href="http://www.comparinggenie.com/code/r.php?r=http%3A%2F/search.yahoo.com/search%3Fp%3Dyou&t=search.yahoo.com%2F&did=6&type=bl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank" title="Search for you"> you </a>do not understand what is happening?<a href="http://www.comparinggenie.com/code/r.php?r=http%3A%2F/search.yahoo.com/search%3Fp%3Dyou&t=search.yahoo.com%2F&did=6&type=bl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank" title="Search for you"> You </a>do not understand. The mind is attacked by greed, and<a href="http://www.comparinggenie.com/code/r.php?r=http%3A%2F/search.yahoo.com/search%3Fp%3Dyou&t=search.yahoo.com%2F&did=6&type=bl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank" title="Search for you"> you </a>do not understand what is happening. But<a href="http://www.comparinggenie.com/code/r.php?r=http%3A%2F/search.yahoo.com/search%3Fp%3Dyou&t=search.yahoo.com%2F&did=6&type=bl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank" title="Search for you"> you </a>want
to understand death. Will that happen? Can that happen? Isn’t it the
same mind, the same mirror? Or is the mirror selective? Does the mirror
say that, “When a particular face comes in front me, I will reflect
clearly. All other faces, I will not reflect clearly.” Does the mirror
say that? It’s the same mirror, the same mind. <em>Clean the mirror and everything will appear as it is.</em> But you are bothered about one particular object and the name of the object is…?<br />
<strong>Listeners:</strong> Death.<br />
<strong>Speaker:</strong> Death. I want to understand death. I understand nothing, but I want to understand death. Understand! <a href="http://prashantadvait.com/life-quotes/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Life</a> is there in front of<a href="http://www.comparinggenie.com/code/r.php?r=http%3A%2F/search.yahoo.com/search%3Fp%3Dyou&t=search.yahoo.com%2F&did=6&type=bl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank" title="Search for you"> you </a>to understand. Why be obsessed with that particular thing?<br />
<strong>Listener: </strong>Because<a href="http://www.comparinggenie.com/code/r.php?r=http%3A%2F/search.yahoo.com/search%3Fp%3Dyou&t=search.yahoo.com%2F&did=6&type=bl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank" title="Search for you"> you </a>are afraid.<br />
<strong>Speaker: </strong>Because<a href="http://www.comparinggenie.com/code/r.php?r=http%3A%2F/search.yahoo.com/search%3Fp%3Dyou&t=search.yahoo.com%2F&did=6&type=bl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank" title="Search for you"> you </a>are afraid. Because<a href="http://www.comparinggenie.com/code/r.php?r=http%3A%2F/search.yahoo.com/search%3Fp%3Dyou&t=search.yahoo.com%2F&did=6&type=bl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank" title="Search for you"> you </a>have heard that death is the final annihilation; that I’ll be no more after death. So the <a href="http://prashantadvait.com/ego-quotes/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ego</a> shivers. So, you are obsessed with that. And because you are obsessed with that, so you can’t even look at life.<br />
<strong>Listeners:</strong> Even Krishnamurthi says the same thing, that if<a href="http://www.comparinggenie.com/code/r.php?r=http%3A%2F/search.yahoo.com/search%3Fp%3Dyou&t=search.yahoo.com%2F&did=6&type=bl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank" title="Search for you"> you </a>don’t understand life, then<a href="http://www.comparinggenie.com/code/r.php?r=http%3A%2F/search.yahoo.com/search%3Fp%3Dyou&t=search.yahoo.com%2F&did=6&type=bl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank" title="Search for you"> you’</a>ll always talk about death, death, death.<br />
<strong>Speaker:</strong> I do not understand why am I writing this question, but I want to understand death. And I may even claim that – <a href="http://www.comparinggenie.com/code/r.php?r=http%3A%2F/search.yahoo.com/search%3Fp%3Dyou&t=search.yahoo.com%2F&did=6&type=bl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank" title="Search for you">“You </a>know, I now understand death.”<br />
<strong>Listener:</strong> Technically, there is going to be nothing left after death. So whatever is<em>,</em> is this life. Rather than being bothered about what life is, we are more bothered about what death is.<br />
<strong>Speaker:</strong> Can we take this as a guide?<em> A mind that is incapable in one area, is bound to suffer from the same incapability in other areas as well.</em><br />
I once told a few friends that if<a href="http://www.comparinggenie.com/code/r.php?r=http%3A%2F/search.yahoo.com/search%3Fp%3Dyou&t=search.yahoo.com%2F&did=6&type=bl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank" title="Search for you"> you </a>are incapable on the football ground,<a href="http://www.comparinggenie.com/code/r.php?r=http%3A%2F/search.yahoo.com/search%3Fp%3Dyou&t=search.yahoo.com%2F&did=6&type=bl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank" title="Search for you"> you </a>will find yourself incapable in the bedroom as well; because it’s the same mind.<a href="http://www.comparinggenie.com/code/r.php?r=http%3A%2F/search.yahoo.com/search%3Fp%3Dyou&t=search.yahoo.com%2F&did=6&type=bl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank" title="Search for you"> You </a>do not understand what to do when the ball is passed to<a href="http://www.comparinggenie.com/code/r.php?r=http%3A%2F/search.yahoo.com/search%3Fp%3Dyou&t=search.yahoo.com%2F&did=6&type=bl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank" title="Search for you"> you,</a> how will<a href="http://www.comparinggenie.com/code/r.php?r=http%3A%2F/search.yahoo.com/search%3Fp%3Dyou&t=search.yahoo.com%2F&did=6&type=bl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank" title="Search for you"> you </a>understand what to do when other things are passed to<a href="http://www.comparinggenie.com/code/r.php?r=http%3A%2F/search.yahoo.com/search%3Fp%3Dyou&t=search.yahoo.com%2F&did=6&type=bl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank" title="Search for you"> you?</a><a href="http://www.comparinggenie.com/code/r.php?r=http%3A%2F/search.yahoo.com/search%3Fp%3Dyou&t=search.yahoo.com%2F&did=6&type=bl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank" title="Search for you"> You </a>will again find yourself arrested, stuck, and frozen. What will<a href="http://www.comparinggenie.com/code/r.php?r=http%3A%2F/search.yahoo.com/search%3Fp%3Dyou&t=search.yahoo.com%2F&did=6&type=bl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank" title="Search for you"> you </a>do?
And the moment is gone. It’s all a game of timing. Be it football or
cricket, it’s a game of timing; or the classroom or a joke, everywhere
it’s a game of timing. Learn to time it properly. And for that<a href="http://www.comparinggenie.com/code/r.php?r=http%3A%2F/search.yahoo.com/search%3Fp%3Dyou&t=search.yahoo.com%2F&did=6&type=bl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank" title="Search for you"> you </a>need spontaneity, right? Beautiful timing can come only from spontaneity. But then something just takes possession of<a href="http://www.comparinggenie.com/code/r.php?r=http%3A%2F/search.yahoo.com/search%3Fp%3Dyou&t=search.yahoo.com%2F&did=6&type=bl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank" title="Search for you"> you,</a> and<a href="http://www.comparinggenie.com/code/r.php?r=http%3A%2F/search.yahoo.com/search%3Fp%3Dyou&t=search.yahoo.com%2F&did=6&type=bl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank" title="Search for you"> you </a>find yourself incapable of moving, in a liquid way. It’s a same mind, how will<a href="http://www.comparinggenie.com/code/r.php?r=http%3A%2F/search.yahoo.com/search%3Fp%3Dyou&t=search.yahoo.com%2F&did=6&type=bl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank" title="Search for you"> you </a>live? How will<a href="http://www.comparinggenie.com/code/r.php?r=http%3A%2F/search.yahoo.com/search%3Fp%3Dyou&t=search.yahoo.com%2F&did=6&type=bl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank" title="Search for you"> you </a>live?<br />
<em>Forget imaginary things, there is enough right now, here. Our hands are full.<a href="http://www.comparinggenie.com/code/r.php?r=http%3A%2F/search.yahoo.com/search%3Fp%3Dpay+attention&t=search.yahoo.com%2F&did=6&type=bl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank" title="Search for pay attention"> Pay attention </a>to that, understand that.<a href="http://www.comparinggenie.com/code/r.php?r=http%3A%2F/search.yahoo.com/search%3Fp%3Dpay+attention&t=search.yahoo.com%2F&did=6&type=bl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank" title="Search for pay attention"> Pay attention </a>the road. And then you won’t need to think about death.<a href="http://www.comparinggenie.com/code/r.php?r=http%3A%2F/search.yahoo.com/search%3Fp%3Dpay+attention&t=search.yahoo.com%2F&did=6&type=bl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank" title="Search for pay attention">Pay attention </a>to the clothes that you are wearing.<a href="http://www.comparinggenie.com/code/r.php?r=http%3A%2F/search.yahoo.com/search%3Fp%3Dpay+attention&t=search.yahoo.com%2F&did=6&type=bl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank" title="Search for pay attention"> Pay attention </a>to the words that you utter. Pay attention to what you talk to your girlfriend on phone. And you will understand death.</em><br />
In ‘<em>Katho Upanishad</em>’, when Nachiketa approaches Yamaraj, he
says, “Tell me, what is death?” And Yamaraj doesn’t tell him anything
about death. He tells him about life. And Nachiketa says, “I have
understood. Now, I have fully understood.”<br />
<em>Who can tell you about death? And why do you need to be told about death?</em><br />
~ Excerpts from a Samvaad session. Edited for clarity.<br />
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07426461466985611516noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3038646618072853386.post-29046899788140520662015-07-18T08:18:00.005-07:002015-07-18T08:18:54.818-07:00Nisargadatta Maharaj says to be constantly in the “I am” realization. What does that mean? What is this “I am” realization? He used to say never forget “I am”. What does that mean?<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
Dear,<br />
It means two things, of which one is nothing. We will first discuss the <em>thing</em>.<br />
There is this entire world and its happenings, and seemingly you at
the centre of this world. And there are events that are happening all
the time: thoughts, discussions, accidents, destiny, love, hate, anger,
profit, loss, news, knowledge; all that is happening all the time. And
the mind is kept active, busy with all that. To remember “I am” means to
remember that none of that, which is happening, really has an objective
existence. So whatever is happening is ‘you’. If you find it difficult
to digest initially that if there is a war happening in the Middle East,
how could this war be me? <strong>Then start off by at least remembering that whatever is happening has been given a color by you.</strong> At least this much can be remembered.<br />
So, you can remember I am the one who is giving it a meaning. I am
the one who is giving it an interpretation, a color. Slowly from there
when you realize the depth of your interpretation, when you realize that
the painting is nothing except the colors and all colors are been given
by you. Then you come down to saying that, “I am that event”. You start
off by saying that, “I am the interpreter of the event”. And when you
see how deep your interpretations are, that there is nothing really left
if you take away the interpretations; then you actually say that, “I am
that event”. This is the first level of remembering “I am”. Whatever is
happening, whatever I am seeing is not outside of me; “I am its seer”,
“I am its projector”, “I am its creator” and “I am its interpreter”. In
fact, “I am it”. This is the first level of meaning.<br />
What is the second level? I had said that the second level is a <em>nothing</em>
level. The second level means that I am nothing except the events that
are happening. Now, you cannot think about this second level. This
second level, if you see is just a remainder. It is just that which
remains after everything else has gone.<br />
The mantra that Nisargadatta is giving is essentially only this much.
Do not take the world as different from yourself, see yourself in every
happening. See that the happening cannot mean to you except if you give
it a meaning. See that the world does not trouble you; you attach
troublesome meanings to the world. This is the first meaning of “I am”.
And when you can clearly see that <em>you are the world</em> and the <em>world is you</em>,
and then your conception of yourself holds no ground. You cannot
possibly say that I am this entire existence. If you say you are this
entire existence, then again you are saying this same thing, “I am
nothing”. Because then you are boundary less.<br />
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Or you could ask a question this way, “Can the world appear to me as
it appears to me without me being what I am? So does the world have any
objective existence? Can the world appear to me as it appears to me
without me being what I am? So, is the world really separate from me? Or
if something happens to me; could this have happened to me, had I not
been what I am? Could this have happened to somebody else? No, it is
happened only to me. And if it is happening only to me, it surely has
something to do with what I am?”<br />
A woman is crying and walking away from a crowd of ten men. Only one
is especially disturbed, the other nine are not. Could this one man have
been disturbed, had he not been the husband of this woman? These nine
men are not bothering right now. Would they have not bothered, had they
been the husband of this woman?<br />
So, look at the happening and see yourself in the happening.<br />
<em>The more you look at yourself in the happening, the more the
distance between you and the world, the more the separation gets
dissolved. When the separation gets dissolved, the happening loses
meaning. And then your definition of yourself loses meaning and there is
just clarity. A pure clarity which you can call as an empty clarity.
This empty clarity is the real “I am”.</em><br />
The things that mean so much to you today, could they have meant so
much, had the course of your life been different? There are things that
matter so much to you today. Could they have mattered, had the accidents
in your life been different? So, that which you start taking as very
important, as essential, when you remember that it is not essential, its
significance is supplied to it by ‘me’. Then it starts losing its
significance.<br />
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07426461466985611516noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3038646618072853386.post-10547365355571556592015-07-18T08:18:00.000-07:002015-07-18T08:18:00.225-07:00 what really is a loving relationship? <div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
Dear,<br />
This is an excerpt from session held at advait office. Hope this helps you out.<br />
<strong>Speaker:</strong> Let us say that there are two persons, A
and B. Whenever one person is related to another person, the effect of
one person on the other, their mutual effect on each other can be of two
types. One is – B becomes dependent on A.<br />
B already had a mind that wanted dependence, and now B has become all
the more dependent on A. B has become attached to A, and A is relishing
that attachment. A is saying, “See, he loves me so much, that is why he
has become so much attached.” After all, attachment is a sign of love. A
has filled up B’s mind completely. A says, “B is now so completely in
love with me, that now he or she is all the time thinking of me.” So
obviously there is no scope of contemplation, introspection.<br />
B used to be a reader. Every night, before sleeping, she would read
at least for two hours. She typically went to bed at around ten o’clock,
and would read till midnight, and then sleep. Now A knows that she
retires at ten o’clock, so he calls her at ten every night. And now
these two talk for two hours, and she now sleeps at around midnight.<br />
Now obviously, the time that could have gone into reading, is now
taken away by A. What is the effect that A is having on B? That A has
now completely filled-up B’s mind. This is what the opposite of
spiritual growth is. The mind was already cluttered. And the effect of A
on B’s life is, that B’s mind is all the more cluttered now. This is
what our normal love does to the other.<br />
“Talk to me for four hours on phone.” Is that the best use of his or
her time? You are destroying the other person. You are the biggest enemy
she can ever have. You are not giving him or her space. You are not
allowing her aloneness.<br />
Now B can become conditioned to such an extent that one day when A
realizes that this is the effect he is having on B, he says “No. I will
no more call you up. You must read.” Now B says, “Surely there is
somebody else in your life now. Whom are you seeing these days? Who is
that bitch? I will kill her.” B will not even realize what is meant by
‘spiritual growth’.<br />
What is love? Look at the people who say that – “We love somebody.” What are they filling the other’s mind with?<br />
<strong>Listeners:</strong> Their own beliefs.<br />
<strong>Speaker:</strong> Their own beliefs. You know there is
another aspect to it. Let me come to it. Whenever two people come in
touch with each other, the man would always remind the woman of her
body. He looks at her, and she realizes that he is greatly interested in
her body. And this mind which would otherwise have been calm, now gets
filled up with the thoughts of the body. The very presence of the male
makes the woman body-centric and vice versa.<br />
He or she used be calm, nice, decent individuals. But since they have
entered each other’s life, all the time they are sexually aroused. And
when they are not sexually aroused, they would get some message, or some
picture, or a thought, which would make them all body, rather all
genitals. From head to toe, this woman is only now genitals. Nothing
else has remained. Brains have been eaten out. That is what the man has
done to her- made a huge genital out of her being. That’s what she has
done to the man as well. It is applicable to both sides.<br />
Is this love? This is exactly what spiritual growth is not. Your
presence is reducing the other person to a corpse, to a mere huge piece
of flesh. Is that not what husbands do to their wives? The husband is
horny, and the two are on the bed. The husband wants to have a go at
her, and she is reading a book of Krishnamurti. Now what is the husband
going to do? The husband is read to attack, and she is reading a
Krishnamurti book. Now what is the husband going to do? Many of you are
married so you know what happens. “This old man, is he sexier than me?”
This is the effect that lovers have on each other.<br />
She used to be a nice woman. And then he will get her pregnant. Now
she is all body. At least for nine months, she is nothing but the body.
Body is constantly reminding her of this and that. Then the baby comes
and she has to definitely remain a body. This is the effect that
so-called lovers have on each other. Where would you find reading
happening when people are in love? Then they only read SMS messages.<br />
<em>(Laughter)</em><br />
And you say, “I am in love, bliss.” It is so difficult to even
imagine that there can be lovers who actually wish each other well. Is
it possible to have a husband who realizes in the middle of sex that –
“Did you do your daily reading today? No. I am getting-off. Where is
your book? First read. Finish your twenty pages reading.” And she is
saying, “No. I will read tomorrow.” He says, “No. Today. Otherwise how
will you attend the Clarity Session?”<br />
<em>(Laughter)</em><br />
From where will you find such a man? You have wives, you have
husbands who are of entirely different nature. Where do you hide
Krishnamurti’s book, by the way, in your house? Under the pillow, over
the AC? As if it is some dirty book and should not be found?<br />
<em>(Sarcastically)</em> “So this is what you have been reading these
days? Have you fallen so low? Do you see the effect it will have on our
kid? This is the example you are setting. You will get brainwashed
after reading this.”<br />
That is the quality of our <a href="http://prashantadvait.com/2015/01/31/love-is-not-torment-and-cannot-torment/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">love</a>.
I have seen people come here, and their spouses would wait for two
hours downstairs, but they won’t climb up. Spouses, fathers, mothers,
friends: they will wait downstairs, but they will not climb up. And if
they happen to see me, “This is that man whose face keeps popping out of
her laptop all the time?”<br />
<em>(Laughter)</em><br />
Now what is this? Is this love? Do you really wish each other well?
If your wife doesn’t like you coming here, does she really wish you
well? Or is she really your enemy? Help her! I am not saying that kill
your enemy. I am saying that help your enemy. Help her, she needs
treatment.<br />
This is a very pertinent question. One basic characteristic of real
love is that you help the other person really grow. That growth is
nothing but self-revelation. And that self-awareness is through your
presence. Are you really helping the other person, or drowning him in
some kind of intoxication?<br />
Real lovers help each other grow spiritually. They help each other become more self-aware.<br />
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07426461466985611516noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3038646618072853386.post-35403691812774046362015-07-18T08:15:00.002-07:002015-07-18T08:15:36.715-07:00What is Ultimate Desire of a Human being?<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
Dear<br />
Only the spiritual path can dissolve the question of yours.<br />
Read this Quote<br />
I once had a thousand desires. But in my one desire to know you, all else melted away.<br />
-Rumi<br />
<strong>Speaker:</strong> “I once had a thousand desires.” We all
have thousand desires. You all have thousand desires. What does each
desire say? Each desire says, “Fulfill me, and you will get
satisfaction. Fulfill me and you will get satisfaction.” Now, what is
this satisfaction? When you are satisfied, do you still have desire?
Does the desire say, “Fulfill me and still I will remain”? What does the
desire say? “Fulfill me and I will go.”<br />
So what does each desire want? To be fulfilled. And to be fulfilled
means- the desire gets vanished. So each desire wishes for its own
disappearance. So the desire only desires the disappearance of itself.
This is what every desire wants. That is the nature of desire.<br />
So there are thousand desires, and what is each desire desiring?<br />
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<strong>Listeners:</strong> Its own disappearance.<br />
<strong>Speaker:</strong> Rumi is saying, “I once had a thousand
desires, but in my one desire to know you, all else melted away.” So a
thousand desires are there. But what is the common desire that each
desire has? The disappearance of itself.<br />
So now you know what is the one desire we have, behind our thousands of desires?<br />
<strong>Listeners:</strong> The disappearance of itself.<br />
<strong>Speaker:</strong> Can this desire please disappear? Because
we do not know any other method of disappearance of desire, so we apply
the only method we know. And what is the only method? To fulfill it. Had
you known any other method to dissolve the desire, you would not have
fulfilled the desire. Understand this.<br />
You fulfill the desire because you don’t know anything else. You do
not know any other method. If you could be assured that even without
fulfilling the desire, the desire can vanish, won’t you take this option
very quickly?<br />
Let us say, you are craving for a pizza. If you were told that even
without eating the pizza, even without paying the bill, even without
consuming these calories, the desire to eat pizza will go away, and you
will feel exactly as desireless, as satisfied, would you still pay the
money, travel to the shop and consume the calories? Would you still to
do that? You won’t. You eat the pizza because you don’t have any other
option. You crave for pizza, and then the desire asks for its
completion. You know only one way – eat. So you eat. Right?<br />
Desire actually does not ask for its fulfillment. It actually asks
for its disappearance. And there is difference between dissolution of
desire, and fulfillment of desire. The worldly man tries to beat the
desire by fulfilling it. The spiritual man actually beats the desire, by
dissolving it. This is the difference between the worldly man and the
spiritual man. Do you understand this?<br />
“I once had a thousand desires. But in my one desire to know you, all else melted away.”<br />
Knowing <em>you, </em>is knowing your own state of desirelessness.
That desirelessness is not just an empty state. When you say,
“Desirelessness”, the word indicates the absence of something, desire –
lessness. But actually you cannot be desireless without having something
very big, very bountiful, very worthy of desire. Do you get it?<br />
When we just say, “Desirelessness”, the image that the mind gets is,
just of an absence. “I don’t have desires.” What you have, that cannot
be captured in image, because that is too large to be contained in an
image. What do you get? That which you do not have. And what do you not
have? Desire.<br />
It is like the richest man saying, “I am not poor.” He is not lying,
but he is making a terrible understatement. He is not lying, he is
right. He is not poor. But he is making a terrible understatement. So
when you say that the highest state is of desirelessness, then you are
right. But you are very humble. You are, in fact, too humble. You are
making a great understatement.<br />
Remember: To be desireless means to be with something which is so
large that no more desires are needed. “I have something so big now that
all these small tit-bits have become irrelevant.” That is
desirelessness. Right?<br />
The world is afraid of desirelessness. If you tell somebody, “I don’t
have any desires,” he will taunt you. He will say, “Have you become a
sadhu-sanyasi? Oh! You don’t have any desires.” He will think that you
have lost something, and the word itself is in negativa. You have lost
something.<br />
I am repeating again: What remains obvious is what you have lost.
What have you lost? Trivia, desire. But what remains hidden is the
greatness that you are now situated in. It is so great that it does not
have a limit. And because it does not have a limit, so you cannot name
it, or indicate it.<br />
<em>To be desireless means to have fulfilled the climax of the desire.</em><br />
The worldly man has been <em>trying</em> to fulfill it, and you have <em>fulfilled</em> it. Remember, in <em>trying</em>
to fulfill, there is only trying and trying. But in dissolution of
desire, there is the actual fulfillment. So those who keep trying to
fulfill their desires, all that they get is <em>trying</em>. Those who dissolve the desire, get fulfillment.<br />
But remember again: Dissolving the desire is not the first thing. You
will not be able to give up the desire without first having something
that is more worthy, precious, important and immense than all that you
can desire. And then the desire drops on its own.<br />
Even then it does not mean that you will not be desiring anything. It
does not mean that you will be thirsty, and you will not ask for water.
It only means that you will not be taking your trivial desires
seriously. You will be happy with desires, and you will be equally
contented without the fulfillment of desires. You will say, “Fine, small
matters. I am so rich. I do not worry about small losses and gains.”<br />
“In my one desire to know you, all else melted away.”<br />
That <em>you</em> is that immensity which is the climax of desires, that <em>you</em>
is that which all your desires are chasing. When you ask for a pizza,
you are not really asking for a pizza. You are asking for That. But
because you have no way to come to That, so you take an ugly substitute,
an ugly shortcut. So what do you order? A pizza. But what do you want? <em>Parmaatma</em>.<br />
So you want God, but that is not being sold in any of these huts. So
instead you go and say, “Pizza with extra cheese, seasoning and this and
that.” That waiter is an idiot. Had he been a realized man, he would
have said, “We don’t sell God. And that is what you need.” You want
That, but you are running after some woman or some man. You want That,
but you are running after money, and prestige, and recognition. All your
desires are desires of That only, who is been referred to as ‘you’ by
Rumi.<br />
You have never wanted anything else. Anybody who has ever wanted, has
wanted only That. Nothing else can be wanted. But we are ignorant, and
we also don’t have a way to reach there. So instead of asking for That
directly, we keep asking for this and that.<br />
So, you keep asking for more marks. Who wants marks? What will you do
with these marks? You actually want that great contentment which marks
unfortunately are never able to give. Such is our tragedy. We want
something, and we keep asking for something else. And imagine your
disappointment. Even when you get that something else, you are still
defeated.<br />
You need to shoot inwards, and you are shooting here and there. You
need to shoot upwards, and you are shooting left and right. Now even if
you hit the jackpot, what do you get? Just disappointment. You don’t hit
the target, what do you get? Disappointment. You hit the target, you
get more disappointment.<br />
“In my one desire to know you, all else melted away.”<br />
Hit the real jackpot, shoot upwards. And if you are really
courageous, really, really courageous then shoot inwards. Stop shooting
here and there. Just shoot yourself right in the mind. <em>“Goli maro beje mein”</em>
(“Shoot your mind”, an excerpt from a Bollywood song), and you are
done. You have hit the real jackpot. Will you remember this? Stop
shooting left and right. Stop targeting this and that. The real target
is there<em> (pointing upwards)</em> and if you want to target this distance really quickly, then shoot here <em>(pointing inwards).</em><br />
<strong>Listener 1:</strong> Sir can you name that greatest thing,
that immense thing, after having which all other desires become so
small. Can you name that?<br />
<strong>Speaker:</strong> Yes, you can name it. It is like drinking tea.<br />
<strong>Listener 1:</strong> What is it?<br />
<strong>Speaker:</strong> Everything. Everything is colored in that.
It is not a separate desire. It is the essence of every desire. So why
do you need to give it a separate name? You can’t even give it a
separate name. It’s like your lover asking you, “Can you tell me when do
you love me?” When do you love him or her? When exactly? If you are in
love, when do you love? Every time. Or is there a specific time slot
marked by alarm bells?<br />
Similarly, that One in your own words, is immense. And what is
immense, is boundary-less. You can’t say, “It begins here and ends
here.” So, you are feeling like eating papaya. And even while you are
eating papaya, you are with him. On the surface it appears that the
desire is of eating papaya and you are taking a piece of papaya and
having it, but it’s like eating papaya while sitting with your beloved.
Don’t you take breakfast with your beloved? And when you have breakfast
with your beloved, what is important, the breakfast or the beloved? On
the surface if somebody sees you, he will say that you are having
breakfast. But you know what you are doing? What are you doing?<br />
<strong>Listeners:</strong> Sharing love.<br />
<strong>Speaker:</strong> Yes! It is like that. You will keep doing
everything else and you cannot even say that, “Now I have met the
beloved. Now I have been with him. Now I am remembering him. Now I have
attained him.” When you put some salt in the sea, where do you find the
salt? Nowhere and everywhere. The sea is always salty, you pick the
water from anywhere.<br />
The spiritual mind is always with him whatever it is doing, or not
doing: eating, running. And it will never say, “This is the time that I
have reserved for the beloved.” You will be surprised. You will actually
accuse him. You will say, “This man never finds time for the beloved.”<br />
“We have a separate time for chanting, we have reserved some time for
reading, we have reserved some time for discussions. This man, he never
goes to the temple, he never reads, he never does these rituals. Why
does he never appear doing anything for the beloved?” Because he is
always with the beloved.<br />
You asked a name for That. <em>(Pointing at one of the listeners)</em> So, right now I am talking to Ayush, what is the name of the beloved?<br />
<strong>Listeners:</strong> Ayush.<br />
<strong>Speaker:</strong> Ayush. Right now I am reading these questions. What is the name of the beloved?<br />
<strong>Listeners:</strong> Questions.<br />
<strong>Speaker:</strong> Questions. <em>(Pointing at another listener)</em> I look at Ved, what name has the beloved taken now?<br />
<strong>Listeners:</strong> Ved.<br />
<strong>Speaker:</strong> Ved. You want to be possessive? You want to have only one name for the beloved?<br />
<strong>Listener 2:</strong> Sir, it is like thinking about
something, I have never seen before. I don’t even imagine about the
thing which we are dealing with.<br />
<strong>Speaker:</strong> But it is so simple.<br />
<strong>Listener 2:</strong> It is not simple. It is so much complicated that I can’t even think.<br />
<strong>Speaker:</strong> You are Ayush. It is as simple as that.<br />
<strong>Listener 2:</strong> I need more time to think.<br />
<strong>Listener 2:</strong> There are these lines in the song, <em>“Yahan dum-dum men hoti hae puja, sar jukane ki fursat nahi hai”</em> (My every move is prayerful, I don’t wait to bow before someone).<br />
Sir, also we have seen that Muslims usually keep their name starting
with Mohammad like Mohammed Azaz. Is to signify the same, that always be
with the beloved? Is this the logic behind this ritual?<br />
<strong>Speaker:</strong> Yes, it wants to convey the same thing. That the beloved should always remain connected, always. In the same way in the <em>Sanatan Dharm</em>,
the trees, the mountains, the rivers, the rocks are worshiped. They too
signify the same – that whatsoever it is, it is That. Haven’t you seen
in India that one sees a stone and starts praying, one sees a tree and
he would keep an idol of any deity, lit a lamp, and start praying. It is
to signify that – whatsoever it is, it is That.<br />
Whatsoever you find, start praying it. One sees a cow walking, bow to
it. But the problem is, one should not then only bow to a cow but to a
pig too. There is no problem in bowing to a cow, problem is in excluding
a pig from being bowed. One should bow to a pig too. And it has
happened that in India there have been religious groups who have bowed
to animals which you consider as untouchables. They have prayed even to
the dead. This only signifies <em>“Jit dekhu tit tu”</em> (Wherever I see, I see you).<br />
<em>“Jo mehndi ke pat me lali lakhi n jaye”</em> (In the cauldron of henna (which is green in color) vermilion color cannot be seen).<br />
Have you seen henna, it is green in color. Are you able to see the
red color in it? It is because the red color is everywhere, hence we are
not able to see it. The beloved is like the red color in henna, because
it is everywhere, hence it is not visible.<br />
<em>“Sahib teri sahibi har ghat rahi samaye”</em> (God your Godliness is expressed in everything).<br />
Godliness is expressed in all the things but it is not visible.<br />
<strong>Listener 3:</strong> This song means the same, <em>“Prabhu ayen haen kukur ke libas men”</em>(God has come in the form of dog).<br />
<strong>Speaker:</strong> This is the mark of a spiritual mind. He is
able to see God in anything, anywhere. You will be surprised how he
could see this. And he would see, and get immersed in it. As it happened
with Guru Nanak that he was counting and counting, and he remembered
That. Ramakrishna was going somewhere one day, he sees an animal being
followed by its off-springs, and Ramakrishna right in the middle of the
street starts singing, “Ma'(Mother, lovingly addressed to God).<br />
Wherever one see, one sees That.<br />
When your eyes start deceiving, then you should believe that you have
really seen. What is being seen, is really not seen. Something else is
being seen. Then realize that you are seeing It.<br />
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07426461466985611516noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3038646618072853386.post-72247283683592291922015-07-18T08:14:00.001-07:002015-07-18T08:14:20.779-07:00 I was reading the Bible and it said that, “The forbidden fruit was eaten by Eve out of temptation”. What does it means?<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
Dear Friend,<br />
A Question was asked to me in one of my Clarity sessions in Adavait
office. So, this is the answer I had given to him. It will be useful to
you. Transcription is long but read it, It will clear all your doubts.<br />
The mind cannot really be understood by itself. The mind can at most
observe itself. It cannot understand. The mind can at most go close to
its functioning and note the details. That is the maximum the mind is
equipped to do. No machine is blessed with power of understanding. But
yes, the mind is a very nicely designed machine that can observe,
register, make notes, store and compare. These are the things that the
mind can surely do. The mind should be utilized to these purposes and
nothing more should be expected from the mind.<br />
Let us understand a few basics here. Understanding is the dissolution
of all observation, comparison, analysis and conclusion. These are the
things that the mind does. When these activities of the mind either
reach their climax or come to their eventual defeat. That is called
dissolution of mental activity.<br />
<em>That dissolution of mental activity is, understanding</em>.<span id="more-9340"></span><br />
Now what is the mind equipped to do? The mind is equipped for
activity. The mind is equipped only for activity. There is nothing
called a still mind or a silent mind. When you say mind, what you mean
is a mechanism that is functional, moving, changing. Things are coming
and going; thoughts are rising and falling. Mind is activity. And
understanding is the sublimation or dissolution of all activity. Mind
cannot understand but mind is a nice machine that can do what it can do,
what it is designed to do.<br />
The mind is designed to ask questions like the one you are asking.
You are asking, “Why is the mind tempted”? Now if you keep asking why is
the mind tempted? You will only get an answer within the lexicon of the
mind. It seems like an important and intelligent question but it is
actually a worthless question. Why is the mind tempted?<br />
You will get some answer. If you ask this question, you will get some
answer. But that answer will just be a rephrasing of the basic fact
that the mind is tempted. Your answer will not take you ahead; your
answer will not take you towards silence. Your answer will only rephrase
your question and keep you moving in circles. And that will not help
you; that will not help you. It will be a chicken and egg story.<br />
<a href="http://prashantadvait.com/2015/03/05/observe-your-own-life-and-you-will-know-the-truth-2/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Observation</a>
is not about asking the question, why? Right now you are standing at a
point, if I go by the quality of the question you have asked. Right now
you are standing at a point which is not even observation. Your question
is below the level of observation. You are not observing, one cannot
observe with curiosity. One cannot observe with a motive in mind.
Observation is not about asking questions because every question is a
motivated question.<br />
No question is an innocent question. Behind every question there is a
hidden expectation of some kind of answer. No question is so innocent
question that it will admit all possible answers including silence. No
question is so honest and innocent. Every question is a tainted
question.<br />
And observation is not tainted. So right now you are not even asking a
question which pertains to observation. Right now you are just trying
to satisfy mental curiosity, which will only continue mental activity
and mind in activity. You are only seeking to continue mental activity,
through this question.<br />
First thing will be to drop the question which asks, “Why is mind
tempted”? Drop this question and just concern yourself with the fact of
temptation. The mind is tempted and that is sufficient. Not why? ‘Why’
seeks for a cause. And you will never get a cause. You will never get
rather, a true cause. All cause and effect is within the same mental
activity that is bothering you.<br />
And you are asking ‘why’? ‘Why’ means time. ‘Why’ means something
that pre-exists what you are seeing. Do not ask why? Just ask, “What is
this that is happening”? What is this temptation? And if you can be a
little more subtle, do not even ask, “What is temptation”? Just observe
the fact of temptation namelessly. You do not even need to call it
temptation.<br />
Just see that this is what the mind is. Something that is restless,
something that wants to go somewhere and hence it is always being
tempted in different directions. And when you observe all this, you need
not even use the words that I have used. Observation is more, much more
subtle than words. Behind every word there is some thought. And
observation has to be as thoughtless as possible.<br />
So I have said that, “Firstly your question is not even at the level
of observation”. Then I said that, “Observe without asking ‘why’”. And
then I go back to what I had previously said, “That even <em>observation is not understanding</em>”.
Because observation will deal with an object; mind is watching mind,
mind is observing mind, and yet there is a subject and an object. The
mind itself is fragmented into two. Mind is observing mind, mind is
observing itself and yet there is a fragmentation, a final
fragmentation, nevertheless but yes.<br />
<a href="http://prashantadvait.com/understanding-quotes/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Understanding</a>
will come, when even this fragmentation stops, when observation reaches
its zenith. That would actually simply be the point where you are not
even asking, “Why is the mind tempted”? Where you are not even observing
that the mind is tempted? <em>It is so. It is so</em>.<br />
Yes, what we call as the mind is nothing but temptation. It is so.<br />
But that understanding again, is not mere words. I may say a few nice
things, wise phrases. But that is not, understanding. Understanding is a
different quality all together.<br />
<em>Observation turns into understanding when the distance between you and your object reduces.</em><br />
<em>How does that happens? That happens when the boundary that you
have built, the boundary that you call as ‘I’, the boundary that
separates you from the object, that comes down.</em><br />
<em>That is the point when you understand.</em><br />
Remember, understanding is not something that happens when you come
to a conclusion. Usually that is what people mean by understanding. They
say that now we have come to a frozen and settled conclusion. So we can
say that we understand the matter. In fact the mind feels very secure
in dishing out one particular statement, as the statement of
understanding.<br />
<em>Understanding is not about coming to conclusions.</em><br />
<em>Understanding is about being free from the need to have conclusion.</em><br />
There is no conclusion. It is just like this and I am alright with
it. Have you ever noticed that whenever people state something, it is
never complete? Never, never complete. Whenever you say that, “You are
going somewhere”. It is never a complete statement. There is expectation
hidden in it. There is hope or motivation hidden in it.<br />
<img alt="Observation-Understanding" class="aligncenter size-full wp-image-9341" height="525" src="https://prashantadvait.files.wordpress.com/2015/07/observation-understanding.jpg?w=700&h=525" width="700" /><br />
For example, at this moment if one of you utters that this room is
quite cold. This statement is not at all complete in itself. The moment
you utter this there would be an expectation that somebody would take
care of the air conditioning. Now that I have expressed the room is too
cold for me, something would be done about it. Are you getting it? You
never say, it is just so. It is just so.<br />
<em>Understanding</em> is, I repeat, “<em>Being free from the need to conclude</em>”.<br />
It is just so and it does not mean anything. Yes, it is quite cold
and that does not mean anything. Yes, it is quite cold and that does not
demand any follow up action. It is just cold, that is it. Full stop.
That full stop, is ‘understanding’.<br />
<em>That deep, deep object-less settling down, is ‘understanding’.</em><br />
It is this way.<br />
Yes! And then somebody who is not initiated will say, ‘So’? And you
will say, “Nothing. That stops here.” There is no question of <em>so</em>,
it is this way. That is it! And then you know; that you understand. But
remember, you being you, there would be demands and there would be
extensions into future. It is very rare when you can just know what it
is like and not extend it this way or that way. That is understanding.<br />
Now, do you see; what your question is doing? Your question is
actually trying to extend and prolong the whole drama; now why is the
mind tempted? Will this question settle down the mind or is this
question is going to extend and prolong and stretch the mind?<br />
<strong>Listeners:</strong> Stretch the mind.<br />
<strong>Speaker:</strong> There is temptation. Now why is there
temptation? So, ten things about temptation. And then, ten things about
those ten things. There is temptation, is it bad? Silence. Is it good?
Silence. Where did it come from? Silence. What would it lead to?
Silence. But there is?<br />
<strong>Listeners:</strong> Temptation.<br />
<strong>Speaker:</strong> Temptation. And you know when it does not
come from anywhere and when it does not lead to anything; you find that
it becomes absurd to give it even any meaning on its own. Because
whatever meaning you assign to anything, have to be dependent on others
and time. Are you getting it?<br />
<em>You cannot have a thing without it being linked to other things.</em><br />
<em>The moment you sever those linkages now, not only the thing is
not related to other things. Actually the thing in itself also ceases to
exist. </em><br />
You see, a man walks in and you say, “He is a family man”. Now you
have created the whole story including others. The thing is depending on
other things. The husband is depending on wife, the father is depending
on kids, the son is depending upon parents. When this thing stops
depending on other things; when this thing is no more linked to other
things, will this thing stand by itself?<br />
The groom walks in. The story is not complete for you. Is it ever
complete? The groom has just walked in. It requires a Zen master to say,
“That is it”! The worldly man will say, “Where is the bride”? Now the
story is not yet complete. The groom is here, how do I <em>this is it say</em>,
full stop? I cannot say this is it, full stop. I have to ask for the
bride, I also have to ask for the wedding party. I also have to ask for
the celebrations and the dinner because the thing is related to many
other things. As is the nature of things; no things exist by itself.<br />
That is the very definition of a thing, a concept; a thing is
something that depends on other things for its existence. What is a
thing? Something that depends on other things for its being. What is a
concept? Something that depends on other concepts for its being.<br />
Now when you come to this point where something is not related to other things and you are able to say, “<em>Full stop</em>”.
Temptation means, temptation. Temptation does not mean sex, temptation
does not mean money; temptation does not mean the biblical stories;
temptation does not mean what is forbidden in the scriptures; temptation
does not remind me of my past. Temptation is temptation.<br />
<em>Then not only do the other things related to temptation fall.</em><br />
<em>A miracle happens, temptation itself falls.</em><br />
In fact you will find it difficult, to even call it temptation any more.<br />
Just as it is very difficult to call one man, one solitary man as a
groom; when neither a bride nor fireworks, nor the wedding parties, nor
the guests, nor the food, nor the dress associated with groom. When
nothing else is to be seen? When other things are nowhere to be seen? It
becomes difficult to call that solitary man as groom.<br />
Similarly temptation would be difficult to be called as temptation,
when there would be nothing that temptation is associated with. But you
will not be able to come to this, if you keep asking, “Why is mind
tempted”? Do you see what you are trying to do? The groom is here and
you are inviting the wedding party. ‘Why’ means come all the other
thoughts. Through ‘why’ you are doing the exact opposite of what you
ought to be doing. Through a ‘why’ you are inviting all sundry.<br />
Don’t invite anybody, don’t ask, “Why this? Why that? Why have I been
selected for punishment? Why is everybody else so lucky? What is this”?<br />
<em>This is it. This is it.</em><br />
And <em>this is it</em> firstly destroys the world around <em>what is.</em> And then <em>what is,</em> in absence of worldly support itself falls.<br />
And all you are left with the silence called understanding. Now you understand.<br />
Do you get this?<br />
<strong>Listener:</strong> Sir, does this mean if we attach any meaning or any conclusion it prolongs the mental activity?<br />
<strong>Speaker:</strong> Yes, of course. Whenever you will try to
understand something using mental logic, comparison, this and that; you
will end up achieving the opposite of what you really want. You really
want to understand, right? And understanding is the cessation of
turbulence, not the prolonging of turbulence.<br />
Instead of getting turbulence to cease, you end up adding fuel to it. <em>This is it</em>. I have come to this point and <em>this is it</em>, does not matter from where I came, doesn’t matter what it would lead to. <em>This is the point. This is the point.</em> And this, <em>this is</em>. Whatever it refers to, could be anything because anyway it has no sanctity or truth about it.<br />
There is anyway no sanctity or truth about it. If she is thinking about temptation then <em>temptation is it</em>.
Nobody has a right to go and tell her that, “No! No! You should stay in
here and now”. And here we have a sacred session going on. So, why are
you thinking of temptation? If the mind is in temptation, <em>this is it</em>. Now do not bring in guests like moral police, comparison or whatever.<br />
See, the whole thing around <em>here and now</em> has been badly misunderstood. <em>Here and now</em> does not really pertain to an objective reality because there is no objective reality. <em>Here and now</em> pertains to the state of mind that the mind is in. All that <em>here and now</em>
means is that when the mind is in a particular state, then that state
is all that there is. Mind is in temptation; then temptation is all that
there is. Mind is anger; anger is all that there is.<br />
Here and now is meaningless. Even though we all are sitting in this physical location right now yet <em>here and now</em> means different things to all of us. So <em>here and now</em>
cannot mean something objective because what is objective then should
not vary with the subject. Because it is objective not subjective so how
can it vary with the subject? Here if you have these many subjects then
<em>here and now</em> will be different for all these subjects.<br />
<em>Here and now simple means that be alert to what is in the mind. Full stop.</em><br />
<em>And whatever is in the mind? That is in the mind.</em><br />
<img alt="Here and now" class="aligncenter wp-image-9342" height="538" src="https://prashantadvait.files.wordpress.com/2015/07/here-and-now.jpg?w=717&h=538" width="717" /><br />
Now do not try to suppress it and do not try to find justifications
for it. Just know that this is what is there in the mind? And that we
said in the beginning is the appropriate mental activity. The mind is
the machine, well tuned, nicely designed for both analysis and
observation.<br />
Use it for observation. You use it only for analysis and comparisons.<br />
<em>Use it for observation. And if the observation is honest then the object of observation will drop.</em><br />
With the marriage party gone and the bride nowhere how will the groom
stand on his own? Observe honestly and you will soon find that you have
gone beyond observation. Observe without motive and you will transcend
observation.<br />
So in a nutshell, what we have said is that the base level of mental activity is<em>motivated analysis</em>.
We stay there. Even in spiritual matters all we do is analysis and no
analysis can be spiritual analysis. All we do is analysis.<br />
Then a higher level would be <em>motiveless observation</em>. I am
asking you to move from the third level to second level. What is the
third level? Motivated analysis. And mind is capable we said of both,
analysis and observation. Mind is capable of being in both state two and
state three. We usually live in state three. Which is? Motivated
analysis.<br />
I am asking you to move from state three to state two. State two is? <em>Motiveless observation</em>.
And then I am saying that a miracle happens on its own if you are
honestly in state two. You are pulled to state one and state one is
silent understanding. It is you prerogative and your personal
responsibility to move from three to two. This much you will have to do.
This much you will have to do, move from three to two.<br />
<em>But if you have really moved to two then some mystical power will carry you to one.</em><br />
<em>Two to one cannot come through your effort; it comes on its own.</em><br />
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<strong>~</strong> Excerpts from <em>Clarity Session</em> held at Advait Sthal. Edited for clarity.<br />
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Dear,<br />
Cars these days come with the auto-pilot feature. You can put the car on
the cruise mode, especially on long drives, and the driver can relax.
There was a research conducted on the vehicles that have this auto-drive
feature. It was found out that people who buy cars having this
facility do not really use it. Because this facility takes away from
them the sense of being the driver. The sense of, “I am the one who is
driving,” the car takes that away.<br />
Now, you have set the speed of the car to sixty kilometers per hour,
and the car is cruising. And all your pleasure of increasing the speed
from sixty to fifty then seventy, for no reason, that is gone. That is
gone. You cannot do anything. And those cars are more expensive than the
normal, manual cars. People pay extra money to get that facility, and
then they don’t use that feature. Why? Because there is a restlessness,
that something needs to be done.<br />
“How can the two feet just stay calm, resting on the floor of the
vehicle? They are not being used properly. God has given two legs, one
for the accelerator and the other for the clutch. How can I let them go
waste? So, something needs to be done.” Similarly the fingers are there.
They must do something. So, what does the restless mind say? “Give me
the remote control. Some button has to be pressed. Otherwise the fingers
are going waste. What is the point in having fingers if they are not
doing something?”<br />
“What is the point in having a throat and a tongue and lips?
Something has to be said. If you have not said something for five
minutes, then you have wasted your throat and tongue for five minutes.
Will these five minutes come back? Such a sin! It’s like having rented
something and not using it. You are paying the total rent and letting
the thing go waste. How can you let your throat remain unproductive? So,
you must gossip about something.”<br />
Same with the mind! “How can the mind remain unproductive? The
factory must continue to produce goods. So, thoughts must keep coming
and going. The circulation must continue. Otherwise the asset is lying
idle. I have an asset and it is not producing anything.”<br />
“Fingers are not playing with the remote, or any other thing. Legs
are not pressing the accelerator. Mind is not thinking, and calculating,
and manipulating. All my assets have gone to disuse. Let me do
something. Let me do something.”<br />
“What is this body for? Look at the function of each part and exploit
it to the maximum. The tongue is for tasting. So, give it all the
tastes that it can have. The abdomen is for digesting and assimilation.
So, let it digest everything and assimilate everything that can go down
my throat. Lizards, dogs, dinosaurs, whatever I can lay my hands on I
will eat. Plastics, stones, nails, bangles, body parts – I will eat.”<br />
“What is the use of having these organs of procreation in the body?
Two days without ejaculation. Oh my God! My asset is going unproductive.
What is the point? The uterus is there to produce babies.” And women of
old days, they were always pregnant. Not even for one month would they
allow their machine to remain idle, one baby after the other. There
would be households where a couple would have twenty kids, of which only
two would remain alive. Obviously when you have twenty, only two would
be left alive.<br />
All this is nothing, but an annoying feeling, a perpetual threat to
your existence. You keep feeling as if time is slipping away, as if you
are losing out on something. You cannot be blamed for feeling that way
because you hope that in the end something is possible, which will not
slip away.<br />
Your mistake lies in not recognizing that there is nothing that will
not slip away. Everything will slip away. So, there is no point in
trying to clutch anything. There is no point in feeling restless.<br />
Restlessness lives on the promise of an eventual rest that-
eventually I will get rest somewhere. There is no eventual rest. When
you recognize that, then restlessness cannot stand on its own. You
understand this? You will not get any rest, anywhere, at any point in
time. When you see that, then you enter into rest right now!<br />
Do you get this? There is no great future waiting for you. Nothing
golden is going to happen to you at some time. Nothing! Absolutely
nothing! This is it. If you are an idiot right now, an idiot is what you
are, and no wisdom is waiting for you in the future. If you are lonely
right now, lonely is what you are, and no great company is waiting for
you in the future.<br />
You have nothing except what you think you have right now. This is it. Come to terms with it. Make peace with it.<br />
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Dear,<br />
You are asking that is it possible to really help blind people,
people who are not prepared to acknowledge the fact, people who are not
seeing the reality. Obviously, here he is using ‘blindness’ as a
metaphor.<br />
Blindness itself creates a situation where it will be helped.
Blindness is suffering. And our essential nature is neither to suffer
nor to be blind. Are you getting it?<br />
The essential core that we all are, that is not blind, that ‘knows’.
Even the person who is pretending to be completely blind, knows deep
within, because it is our nature to know. And that is why there is
suffering. It is our nature to know, to understand, to be aware. But on
the surface, what are we doing? We are living an ignorant life, we are
telling ourselves that it is alright to act blindly. We have built some
kind of defence of concepts, principles and traditions around ourselves.
We have somehow justified our blindness, that it is alright to be
blind.<br />
It cannot be alright. You may think it is alright, you may pretend it
is alright, you can make a law that it is alright, you can write books
that justify blindness, you can have populations turning blind, billions
of people, yet blindness would always be suffering. Why? Because
blindness is not your nature.<br />
Your innermost core will keep crying against blindness. Your mind may
keep arguing, your mind may keep giving fine arguments, yet something
within you will keep calling, will keep saying, ‘It is not alright, it
is not alright, it is not alright.’ Are you getting it?<br />
Mind keeps on changing. That essential core does not change. Today
mind is in support of blindness, tomorrow the mind may turn against
blindness, on the third day the mind may start following some other
ideologies, some other principles. Mind has a thousand colours, mind is
easily influenced. But your center has no colors and is not influenced,
that is what I am calling as your ‘essential nature’.<br />
That essential nature is intelligence, understanding, seeing, not
blindness. After seeing, you have no option to remain blind. Seeing is
your nature. You have no option to remain an idiot, understanding is
your nature. That is why till the time you act stupidly, you will
suffer.<br />
Do you now see why stupidity is suffering? Because, it is not your nature to be stupid.<br />
Similarly, hatred is not your nature. That is why whenever you will
be full of hate, you will suffer. Falseness is not your nature. It may
become a habit, you may be deeply conditioned, but habit is not nature.
Habits come with time, come with situations and they can go away with
situations, but nature never changes. Nature is what you really, really
are. Hatred is not your nature.<br />
In the same way, bondage is not your nature. You may convince
yourself that bondage is good, you may convince yourself that there are
so many uses of bondages, that bondage is beneficial, that there is a
good trade-off by remaining a slave, that I am getting so much of
safety, convenience, you may convince yourself with fine arguments, with
nice logic, yet something within you will keep saying, ‘No. Whatever be
the price of freedom, pay it. Don’t remain a slave, because bondage is
not your nature. You will suffer if you remain a slave.’<br />
Now, you are asking that can the blind be really be helped. The
biggest help is already coming to them. What is the biggest help? Their
own nature. Their own nature will not allow them peace, till the time
they act blind. They will not be able to sleep properly, they will know
that something very, very important is missing from their life. And that
is their greatest help.<br />
It’s ironical, that suffering itself is their help. When we suffer it
is the call of the Truth that there is something wrong somewhere,
please correct it. That is what is suffering- the call of the Truth.
‘There is something wrong somewhere, please correct it.’<br />
You have pain in your stomach and you are suffering. You know what
that pain is? It is a reminder to you that there is something wrong
somewhere, please correct it. Otherwise, there will be damage. Do you
know what headache is? Headache does not mean that there is something
wrong in the head. Headache means that there is something wrong in the
body somewhere and it’s a reminder, it’s like an alarm going on. ‘There
is something wrong somewhere, please correct it.’ Headache is the body’s
way of helping itself.<br />
Your elbow gets hurt and you cannot put your elbow on the table. The
moment you put your elbow there and try to put some pressure on it, the
elbow recoils. That is body’s defence mechanism. And if you put it here
and apply pressure, the hurt will get worse. The wound, of whatever kind
it is, will not heal. All these are inbuilt systems that take you
towards health.<br />
Similarly, mental agony is an in-built system, a very deep in-built
system, that is the call of the divine, the call of the Truth. Blindness
is suffering. And suffering itself is a kind of help. It is telling you
that there is something wrong, please correct it. Till the time your
mind is not fully aligned with your real nature, you will keep
suffering.<br />
If you find that there is boredom in life, there is weariness, there
is fear, there is disturbance, you remain distracted, you feel lonely,
you feel insecure, you are worrying a lot, you have tendency to gossip,
if you find any of these symbols in mind, then it is the reminder sent
to your mind by your core. What is the reminder? The reminder is that
you are not behaving properly. You are holding beliefs, you are living
in illusions, you have put ego around yourself, you are not coming close
to me, you are not surrendering to me. That suffering is a message,
it’s a call, it’s an indicator. A danger sign! ‘Something is wrong
somewhere, please correct it.’<br />
So these blind men are already suffering. They may not acknowledge
it, because acknowledging it will hurt their ego. They will not
acknowledge, they will not accept that daily we are living in trauma.<br />
How will you help a blind man, who is already being helped by his
nature? You help the blind man by not remaining blind yourselves. That
is the first and the last step in helping somebody. Remember, you are
not responsible for the help, the help is already coming to him from his
own centre, from his own core. You help yourself.<br />
When you will start helping yourself, then you will find that ‘the
core’ helps ‘the being’ in two ways. One, by calling from inside, that
is the pull, something in your heart calls you towards the inside. That
is the pull. And the same heart creates situations outside that push you
inwards. That is the push. So, both through pull and push your core,
your essence, your centre, your truth, is trying to help you.<br />
If you want to become medium that helps others, then first help
yourself. Don’t remain blind yourself. And then you will find that you
have become a vehicle of transformation for others also.<br />
How? Without planning. How? You won’t know. How? In a thousand ways.
Is it by working hard? No, by just being yourself. By just being
yourself you find that you are helping the world. ‘How am I helping the
world? By being what I am. I am not going out to do social service. I am
not meeting person after person and counselling them. I am not putting
myself up as a role model. Then how am I helping? By being what I am.’<br />
Do you mean to say that others start getting inspiration from you?
No, I don’t want to inspire others. There is no need to inspire. The
real inspiration is already within them. Why do I need to inspire? If
inspire them or act as a role model, then that would be some kind of an
ego. Why should I fall in that trap?<br />
The helper is already out there to help you. You need not bother
yourself from helping somebody. You cannot help anybody because your
help is not needed. The real helper is already helping. Your suffering
is one of the ways in which He helps you. So you need not bother
yourself. You need not take the responsibility of changing the world.
You need not say that I am a great social reformer, a modern saint. You
need not do that.<br />
Look at yourself first. Be close to your essence. And you will find
that in mysterious, miraculous ways things around you are changing.
That’s why I said that don’t ask, ‘How?’ The universe has its own ways
of operating that are beyond the comprehension of this limited mind. Are
you getting it?<br />
Don’t look too much at others, that if others are blind how do I help
them. Forget about others, look at yourself- self before service. We
are addicted to service. How will you help somebody if you yourself are
blind? Can one blind man help another? Can one sleeping man wake others
up? Ten people are sleeping and one of them is dreaming and saying that I
am waking others up. Will he really be able to wake others up? How do
you wake others up? By first waking up yourself. Look at that.<br />
Am I awake or am I sleeping? That’s the first and the last question.<br />
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Dear friend,</div>
You are asking as if the world doesn’t mean to you anything. And this
is surely a way to take care of world’s all problems. You might not get
it, but be with me, pay attention, and you will know it all.<br />
Please understand. Your question is: When the world does not meant me
anything, then why should I worry about the world and the world’s
problems? But you anyway do not worry about the world’s problems. But
you anyway cannot solve the world’s problems; neither do you want to
solve the world’s problems.<br />
The <a href="http://prashantadvait.com/world-quotes/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">world</a>’s problems are solved by not taking the world as real. Understand this: <em>The
world’s problems are solved by those who do not contribute to those
problems. The world’s problems are not solved by those who take the
world seriously. The world’s problems are actually solved by those who
know that the world does not mean anything. </em>Hence, leave the world to itself. If you can leave this earth to itself, will world major problems will be there?<br /> See,<em> Who creates the world’s <a href="http://prashantadvait.com/problem-quotes/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">problem</a>? The one who thinks that the world is attractive; it has a lot of meaning. </em>When
the world holds a lot of meaning and attraction and relevance and
significance for you, then you create problems in the world. “Oh! Let me
invade that country. Why? – Because it has oil. And oil has a lot of
significance for me.” So, now you will begin a forty year long war.<br />
Why did the two world wars happen? Because the two parties were
clamoring over who would colonize the rest of the world. Half of Europe
wants to exploit Asia; the other half also wants to exploit Asia and
Africa. And two parties are fighting among each other, because for both
of them ‘the world’(Asia and Africa) means a lot. For both of the
parties, the world means a lot. For Germany, the world is very
significant. It wants to exploit the world. For Britain, again, the
world is very significant. Britain too wants to exploit the world.
Hence, there is a world war.<br />
Now, what if one of the parties says, “The world doesn’t mean anything.” Would the war happen? <em>You destroy the world, when the world becomes meaningful to you</em>. <em>You destroy your loved one, when you start caring for your loved one.</em><br />
Do you get this?<br />
<em>Leave the world to itself. The world knows how to take care of
whatever it is. Dream, illusion, whatever it is; the world will take
care of itself. </em>But when you start taking it as important, real, significant, then you simply distort everything.<br />
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Of course, there is a consumption that is needed by the body. We are
not talking of that. We are not talking of you eating three fruits a
day. Three fruits a day – that much of consumption doesn’t cause global
warming. Even thirty fruits a day will not cause global warming. <em>Global warming is caused by your exploitation, by your lust to consume.</em><br />
This was some of the excerpts from my article- <strong>The only way to help the world is to leave the world alone.</strong><br />
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Dear friend,<br />
“Ego” is the term which we usually take as something more than pride. This is usually what is meant by us when we talk of “ego”.<br />
This is the very definition of the word-“ego” for the World; coming by the World.<br />
But, this is not what ego really means. Then, what is ego? I will put
my answer but for that; you just need to pay attention. You need to put
your beliefs aside. Someone has said-“You can’t fill a filled cup”. So
you need to empty your cup for having some tea. And if you are ready,
then go for it-<br />
<strong><strong>Ego is the image of you coming from the others.<br />
</strong></strong>You see when we are a kid there is so much which is
given to us that we just take. We are given a religion, a nationality,
all kinds of beliefs, views about how the world is, views about how the
life is, and we take all these without understanding them. Because we
are small, because we are helpless, we cannot do much. Additionally
there is one more thing which we take from others without understanding
and that thing is very, very powerful.<br />
What is that?—<strong>Identity!</strong><br />
Not only we take our religion, our nationality from others but we
also take ‘identities’ from others. This taking of identities from
others is called as EGO.<br />
Are you getting it?<br />
‘I don’t know who I am, others have provided me a ready-made answer and I have accepted it’.<br />
You don’t bother to understand how your mind functions. Who you are?
But you very conveniently, in a lazy way take your identity from the
others. Your whole self concept, your whole image about yourself is not
yours but given by somebody else. So somebody comes to you and says that
you are brilliant, what do you start believing?<br />
‘I am Brilliant’<br />
This is the statement of…?<strong> Ego.</strong><br />
<strong>
</strong><strong></strong>Because you have not known it for yourself
whether you really are brilliant and what the world ‘brilliant’ means.
You have not investigated, you have not known. Somebody just came and
told you that you are brilliant and you just accepted it. What would be
the result? The same fellow can come later and tell you that you are
stupid, so you will have to accept that as well. You will always have a
fear. A fear that your image can be destroyed because this image has
been provided by somebody else. What has been given by somebody else can
be taken back by that person.<br />
<strong>Ego means a second-hand life.</strong><br />
<strong>
</strong><strong>“How do I get rid of it?”-</strong> Simple, by
seeing that my identities are coming from outside. The moment you
understand that what I am believing to be mine, it has been supplied to
me by somebody. And I have eyes of my own, I have intelligence of my
own. I can look at myself and find out who I am, what I am. I need not
be dependent on others. The moment you realize this, in the same moment
you are free of ego.<br />
<strong>How to implement it?</strong><br />
When someone comes and says a few good things about you, be little
more alert. Do not start feeling good. In fear, do you know what you are
doing? You are internalizing his view of yourself. You are making his
opinion as your opinion. Now this is development of ego. He said that
you are handsome and you have internalized it and said to yourself, ‘I
am handsome’. Become alert at this moment. At the same time when
somebody comes and says a few hurtful things about you, do not start
feeling offended immediately. He may have said that you are an idiot but
that doesn’t make you an idiot.<span style="text-decoration: underline;"><em> To be hurt implies that you have accepted what he has said.</em></span><br />
These are the moments you must watch out. You must be careful in
these moments. When you are working you must not work for the sake of
others. If you are working just for the sake of appreciation from
others, be careful what you are doing. What are you doing? You working
so that, that fellow may say that you are nice, you are capable, you are
hardworking. So all your work has been aimed at one
thing. What? Development of a favorable self-image from somebody
else. We are not cautious at those moments, we are not careful. We
forget.<br />
Are you getting it?<br />
It is in these moments that we should remain very-very cautious. When
your results are declared, don’t seek appreciation in the eyes of
others. Have you seen how people rush and tell everybody if they get a
nice result? Now can you look sharply at what they are trying to do?
They are trying to generate the image of them in the eyes of…?Others.<br />
<strong>This is Ego.</strong> Have you seen people when they shiver
and shrink into a corner when they don’t get a favorable result? They
avoid meeting people, they close themselves up. Do you see this as ego?
Both are aspects of ego.<br />
To announce to everybody that I have gained a wonderful result and
also to hide from everybody when you don’t get a favorable result, both
are Ego. In fact this very desire for result is ego. Are you getting it?<br />
<em><span style="text-decoration: underline;">If you are careful at these moments then you are your own master, otherwise you will become the slave of others.</span></em><br />
<em><span style="text-decoration: underline;">You deserve to be your own master.</span></em><br />
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Dear friend,<br />
You have asked “What is friendship?” As friends we all have, as
friendship is a kind of relationship, so do we have other relationships
too. And we all “know” what do they really mean. We know “What is love?”
We know “how should be a mother-son or father-son, father-daughter or
sister-brother; relationship?” Without even knowing the basis of thier
relationship.<br />
What is friendship? What do you mean by friendship? You are lonely and
you get somebody to cling to, and then the two of you hang out together,
and you call this as ‘friendship’. What do you mean by ‘friendship’?
What kind of friends do we have around us? When do we call somebody a
friend?<br />
We say, ‘A friend in need is a friend indeed’, it means that
friendship is a trade. ‘When I am in need, you help me and when you are
in need, I help you, and then we are friends. Your views agree with
mine, my views agree with you and we are friends. I need to copy
assignments and you are always there, then we are friends. In all my
rubbish, the one who can partner me, he is my friend.’<br />
In a lucky moment, aloneness happens to you and you are just sitting
still with yourself, fully contented, not excited, not sad, but
completely with yourself. You are sitting still, and the other fellow
comes and says, ‘Hey, you are sitting quietly. Are you sad? Come, let’s
go for a drink.’ And you call him your friend. You call him your
‘friend’.<br />
Remember, a conditioned mind hates to be de-conditioned. It looks for
those people and those situations that can reinforce its conditioning. A
terrorist will not hang out with a monk, if he wants to remain a
terrorist. In order to preserve his identities, his beliefs as a
terrorist, it is very important for him to make friends with another
terrorist. If he makes friends with a monk, his terrorism will vanish.
So he cannot be friends with a monk. That’s how our lives run. We make
friends with those who are as deeply conditioned as we are, so that we
can remain conditioned slaves. That is how we choose our friends. That
is the truth of our relationships and friendships.<br />
You will never make friends with someone who really shows the truth
to you. You will make friends with someone who will keep you in
illusion. And that’s what you call friendship- a bond of mutual
deception.<br />
Arjun too had a friend, by the name of Krishna. But Krishna was a
friend who brought the truth to Arjun. And Arjun found it highly
discomforting. He wanted to run away. But that is a friend, a real
friend who can hold mirror to you, who can really help you see yourself,
not the one who makes you more and more unconscious. Not one who helps
you in keeping a dream world around you.<br />
So, what is friendship? Friendship is nothing. Friendship is a state
of being in which you are concerned not with what you can get from the
other person, but in the real advancement of the other person. And the
real advancement is, discovering the truth. So a friend is a friend only
if he brings you closer to the truth; in whose presence you become less
agitated, in whose presence a silence comes. Not the one who keeps
gossiping with you.<br />
Find out such friends, and then there will be real magic. But you
cannot find them if you keep yourself occupied with friends of this
kind. You will first have to create space. You will first have to throw
the dirt away. You will first have to create a space in which that real
friend can enter.<br />
Till the time you are so occupied with these kinds of friends, the
real one will not come. He cannot enter. Even if he comes there is no
space for him. So get rid of all this that is around you. It will be a
little painful in the beginning, because you have become used to living
with these people. But bear that pain, pass through that pain.<br />
This is an excerpt from my Samvaad session. You can read much more on
life-fundamentals topic on my blog-‘Words into Silence’. Various life
fundamental topics are discussed there and many wisdom writings-<br />
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Dear Friend,<br />
<em>Kabir</em> says, “Your first problem is that you are born.” This is the answer of your second question.<br />
And now the first you asked that why do we slip out of joy?<br />
Do you remember the great warrior of <em>Mahabharat, Karna</em>? He was a great warrior. What was the curse that had fallen on him?<br />
That he will forget all his knowledge when he will need it the most.<br />
You are all <em>Karna</em> of <em>Mahabharat.</em> You remember everything, you know everything, but not at that moment when you need it. When you need it, then it is gone.<br />
You all are forgetting your essential nature.<br />
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07426461466985611516noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3038646618072853386.post-25523281080006795182015-07-17T21:31:00.000-07:002015-07-17T21:31:15.456-07:00 Why do thoughts keep changing?<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
Dear Friend,<br />
A Question was asked to me in one of my Samvaad session. So, this is
the answer I had given to him. It will be useful to you as well. The
transcription is given below read it.<br />
<strong>Speaker</strong>: Asif (<em>referring to the questioner</em>)
is asking, why do thoughts keep changing from time to time, moment to
moment? Asif we will conduct a small experiment right now, just look at
the world around you, can you see anything that does not change? Can you
name any thing that is stable, even for the slightest period of time?
Is there anything around that has any constancy? The world by definition
means change. And that is why, time exists.<br />
You know what is time? Time is just the rate of change, as measured
by the mind. The clock is always ticking, right? So, things are always
changing. Sometimes things appear to be constant but nothing is ever
constant. The world is continuously in a flow. You can say that the
world is like a river. If you look at a river from a distance, let’s
say, if you look at a river from a flying aircraft. The river will
appear like a constant line, a contour on the land. But when you get
closer and investigate, you find that the river is constantly flowing,
it is not the same even after a fraction of second.<br />
The famous Greek philosopher <em>Heraclitus,</em> he had said that,
“You can never step in the same river twice”. You step into the river
and when you step again, the river has already changed. It is never the
same river. You can never step into the same river twice. The world is
like a river, always changing, always changing. And it is only because
we are not attentive enough, that we think that something is constant or
worse still, work and pray for things to be stable and constant.
Nothing can be constant, nothing can be stable.<br />
Now, what is the mind? You said, “Why do thoughts keep changing
always”? What is the mind? The mind is that in which everything arises
and falls because of the influence of the world. Do you have any thought
that does not arise because of the world? Can you think of anything
that is not been given to you by the world? All thoughts are influences
of the world. You said that at one point in time you thought of becoming
a policeman, and another time you wanted to be a researcher, then an
engineer, then a business man. Would you have wanted to become a
policeman, had you never seen a policeman?<br />
But then you are a child, and you watch a movie, and in the movie
there is that fantastic cop who is chasing all the robbers and criminals
and bashing them up. And what do you want to become then? A police
inspector. This thought is arising due to the influence of the world,
and what is the world? A river that is constantly changing.<br />
Now next moment, the policeman is gone in the river. The policeman is
gone, the river has flown. And what do we have now? An engineer comes
along. So your neighbor’s son who was five years elder to you, did his
B.Tech degree and got a job in a prestigious IT firm and he was also
deputed to a European country and everybody felt so proud. It was the
talk of the town. And upon seeing that, you take that as an example and
you say that, “No, no, no. Policemen are lousy, I want to become an
engineer”.<br />
Would you want to become an engineer, had engineers not been known to
earn well and be respectable? Would so many engineering colleges
proliferate? Had India not gone through an IT revolution, just 25 years
back, we didn’t even have 10% the number of colleges that we have now.<br />
Today everybody wants to go into the information technology field.
Just 25 years back, it was a rarity. So from where did the thought of
becoming an engineer come? It came from the world, and the world is a?<br />
<strong>Listeners</strong> (in chorus): River.<br />
<strong>Speaker</strong>: River. Now in the river, the policeman
went, then the engineer went and now who has come? The businessman. And
now you want to become the businessman. And rest assured, something else
is coming after the businessman and something else after that and
something else after that. Your thoughts are not at all your own; your
thoughts arise from the influence of the world and the world is so
changeable. It is a flux. Nothing stable, constant about it.<br />
So, we are in a very tricky situation. We do not even know what we
are going to want next because we do not know what is going to come
flowing in the river, next. Anything may come as an influence upon us
and we will start thinking about it. We don’t even know it is quite a
helpless situation.<br />
Tomorrow something else may dominate the world economy, and we will
feel like getting into that field. And because we are not attentive
enough, we will think that these are my thoughts and my desires. These
are not your thoughts, at all Asif. These are thoughts given to you by
the world. We hardly have anything within us that is really ours.<br />
Things happen in our surroundings, things happen in our environment
and we get influenced by them. We internalize the influences upon us and
we think that, these are our original thoughts, that these are our
internal desires and that we must chase these desires. No thought is
original and no desire is internal. They are all, I repeat, “Influences
upon the mind coming from the world”.<br />
So what does the intelligent man do? How does he live? The
intelligent man is the one, who has an identity independent of the
world. The intelligent man is the one, who is not helplessly subject to
the randomness of the flow, to the vicissitudes of the flow. The
intelligent man is someone, who has something which remains untouched by
the flow. So the intelligent man is someone, who has the capacity to
maintain a centre, a core that is not influenced by the world.<br />
But all thoughts arise from the world? It is a tricky situation. All
thoughts arise from the influence of the world. At the same time we are
saying that the intelligent man is someone who has something, which is
not touched by the world. Now surely, these cannot be the thoughts
because all thoughts arise from the?<br />
<strong>Listeners</strong> (<em>in chorus)</em>: From the world.<br />
<strong>Speaker:</strong> From the world. So surely the intelligent
man then has something which is beyond thought. What does he have? What
is it which is beyond thought and hence untouched by flow of the world?
What is it that is beyond thought, and hence does not keep changing from
time to time?<br />
Thoughts will change from time to time but the power to realize
cannot change. That is called your capacity to understand. That is not
the part of the flow because it can understand the flow. But you can
understand the flow, only if you stand a little separate from the flow.
It is like standing on the banks of a river, by the sides of a river.
And the river is flowing in front of you and you are watching the river
flow. And you can see, water is coming and water is going. But you are
not going away along with the water. What are you doing? You are just
standing still and watching and knowing that this is the nature of the
world, of the mind and of thoughts. Coming and going, rising and
falling.<br />
And you are standing; you are standing close to the river, yet
untouched by it. That is called realization. Seeing that, Oh! This is
this way. Seeing, it is this way. Does that mean that I have nothing to
do with the river? No! I have lots to do with the river because as a
human being, as a physical entity, as a body, I exit in the world. So it
is not that I have boycotted the river, it is not that I have taken a
pledge not to touch the river, it is not that I am renunciating or
saying that, “No! No! The world is an untouchable thing. I have nothing
to do with the world”. I have lots to do with the world but in a very
special way. What is that special way?<br />
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A teacher was on his death bed, he was dying. So his student asked
him, “Sir, can you please give us one last advice”. He said, “I will
expire and then you will return to your homes and while returning to
your homes, there is this river in between and you will cross this
river”. The student said that, “Yes sir, that’s true. When we will go
back, we will cross the river”. The teacher said, “Cross the river but
don’t wet your feet”.<br />
<em>Cross the river but don’t wet your foot. </em>That is how the
intelligent man lives. He does live in the flow as well, but he does not
allow the flow to corrupt him, to change something in him. He does not
allow the flow to wet him. So even when he is in the river, he is not
wet. That’s quite special, isn’t it? To be in it yet not of it.<br />
<em>Akbar Allahabadi</em> captured it beautifully in his verse when he said,<em> “Duniya mein hun duniya ka talabgar nahi hun. Bazar se guzra hun kharidar nahi hun”.</em><br />
So alright, I live in the world, I live in the markets but that does
not mean that the markets will be able to tempt me. That does not mean
that the world will be able to rule me. (<em>Silence</em>)<br />
But remember, whenever you will go Asif by your thoughts, the world
will rule you. To work according to a thinking or an ideology is to
become a slave of the world because all thoughts arise from?<br />
<strong>Listeners </strong><em>(in chorus)</em>: The world.<br />
<strong>Speaker</strong>: So the one who wants to live freely in the
world, the one who wants to play in the river, without being consumed by
the river, must ensure that he is not living his life based on
thoughts. There are two ways to live; one, live as per your thinking and
second, live in realization. The intelligent man lives in realization
and realization and thinking are very, very different thing, very
different. Thinking come from the past, thinking comes from the world.
Realization comes from deep attention to the present.<br />
There is no commonality between them, the man who is thinking, will
never be able to realize. The man whose mind is crowded by the world and
his neighbor and his surroundings will never be able to understand the
reality, never understand. He would just be foolishly ruled by the world
and he will suffer and he will not even realize, why he is suffering?
And we see a lot of suffering around us, don’t we? Is there anybody that
you see who is not tensed or ambitious or insecure or afraid or dull or
bored? Look at the people around you, look at the common man on the
road and this is all that you will see – suspicion, doubt, fear,
insecurity, division. And he does not even know why he is suffering so
much. He is suffering because he is living a life based on thoughts.<br />
Whosoever will live on thoughts, will suffer, that is the punishment.
And if you are suffering, it is a sure shot proof that you are not
realizing. Realization is the end of suffering. Realization is the end
of confusion. And thoughts will always perpetuate confusion. And
thoughts will never come to an end, on its own. So there is the police
man, then there is an engineer, then there is the business man and then
there is something else. So the life will come to an end but the stream
will keep flowing. (<em>Silence</em>)<br />
<em>‘Maaya mari na man mara, mar mar gaya sharir’</em>.<br />
You will die; the thoughts will not die. The body will come to an end but the world will go on. The stream will keep flowing.<br />
Are you getting it? So, what to do? Well! Not much, not much to do
really. Pay attention, see what is happening. And when you see what is
happening, you become free from the happening. When you see what is
happening, then you become free from the happening. And that will allow
independent action to take place. That will allow really free movement
in life. And that is joy. That is when you really come alive. That is
frequency of living, flying in open sky.<br />
Right Asif?<br />
Next time whenever you feel like going this way or that way.<br />
Just ask yourself, “Is it not another thought given to me by world”.<br />
And if the answer is ‘yes’. Then you have realized something.<br />
– Excerpts from a Samvaad session. Edited for clarity.<br />
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07426461466985611516noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3038646618072853386.post-78902021757858171812015-07-17T21:30:00.001-07:002015-07-17T21:30:08.272-07:00How to deal with anger?<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
Dear Friend,<br />
A Question was asked to me in one of my Samvaad session. So, this is
the answer I had given to him. It will be useful to you. The
transcription is given below read it. It will clear all your doubts.<br />
<strong>Questioner:</strong> In spite of keeping all watch and vigil, <a href="http://prashantadvait.com/anger-quotes/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">anger</a>
comes and leads to wrong actions on certain trigger points and
situations. After that it is realized that a slip happened. What is the
way?<br />
<strong>Speaker:</strong> There is nothing in existence that is
unnecessary, totally useless, needlessly there. It is good that we are
talking of anger, its causes and its consequences, the harm that it
does. But that also might be because firstly anger is very gross, very
visible. There is a clear sensual expression of anger. So, it becomes
very obvious that we are angry; it cannot remain hidden. And secondly
our education or <a href="http://prashantadvait.com/morality-quotes/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">morality</a>
has constantly taught us that anger is something bad. So to the problem
of anger, we seem like being alert. But are we equally alert, let’s
say, to the fact that even in those moments of the day when everything
appears normal, we are actually feeling a little down, a little dull, a
little bored, a little short of energy; that we do not consider a
problem as big as anger, again for those two same reason. One, anger is
gross and that constant sense of background boredom is subtle. In anger
you shout, your face turns red, your blood pressure rises. In boredom,
well, there is not much that happens that can be caught or traced by
senses. Now you are just sitting, you are weary, you are yawning, and it
doesn’t seem that there is much wrong with yawning. In anger, well you
are beating people up. It seems that there is so much wrong with anger.
And secondly, we have been taught that anger is bad and boredom is a
much smaller evil. But is that so?<br />
Is anger a totally unwanted child of existence? Is it something that
should have not been there and has somehow, by mistake, been dropped
into the scheme of things? Not really. We live in a <a href="http://prashantadvait.com/duality-quotes/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">dualistic</a> world of opposites where everything has its opposite, and we live in a diverse world. <em><a href="http://prashantadvait.com/existence-quotes/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Existence</a> means duality and diversity.</em>
Existence means that there would be many things, many colors, many
shades and each of these many would also have its opposite. That is what
existence is. Whatever you experience in existence, whatever is there
existent, gross or subtle, physical or mental, has a right to be there.
It has a proper place; otherwise it couldn’t have been there. So, first
of all let’s drop this notion that anger is particularly evil. At least
we can say that it is not any more evil than boredom; and that is
important because very few people would come over and write that “I am
lethargic”. Very few people would come over and write that “I am <a href="http://prashantadvait.com/ambition-quotes/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ambitious</a>“. But anger seems to be a much more targeted problem. Everyone wants to get rid of anger.<br />
At its proper place, everything is alright. Not in it proper place
even that which we consider to be morally and universally the best
virtue, is not at all proper. For example, we know what the word
forgiveness means in the dualistic sense. We also know what the word
satisfaction means. They are not always the right place to be in. We
know what non-violence means in the dualistic sense; not in the ultimate
sense. And it may not always be right to be non-violent, in the sense
that we know non-violence. We know what peace means, and the peace that
we know may not always be appropriate. We know what war means, and war
may not always be condemnable.<br />
<em>Everything is alright, albeit at its proper place.</em> There is
no need to feel guilty about anger. There is no need to give so much
time and energy to the question of anger. This time, this energy, this
attention, should rather go towards a more fundamental question. That
question must be, “Where is my anger coming from?” For that matter,
“where is my forgiveness coming from? Where are any of my actions coming
from?” And then whatever be the action, you do not need to be worried;
let the action flow. If it is coming from the right place, then whatever
be the action, it is the right action; it is an auspicious action, good
for you and good for everybody; irrespective of how nice or how ugly
the action appears, irrespective of what the books of morality have to
say about the action; it doesn’t matter what the action is.<br />
There is an anger that arises out of frustration; frustration that
your desire could not be completed, could not be fulfilled. You have
been loose, not watchful. You have not seen where your mind is going.
You have not seen the shape, direction and contents of your thoughts.
And that has given your mind a certain urge, a certain momentum. Those
thoughts have taken control of you. You want fulfillment. The
fulfillment doesn’t come and now you are angry. And now you are angry.
This anger is nothing but the frustration of desire. There is desire and
desire seeks fulfillment; fulfillment doesn’t come and you are angry.
Getting it?<br />
And then, there is another anger! We’ll have to look at it. What do
we define anger as? When do we call somebody angry? You just call
somebody angry, when there is a deep sense, an expressed and energetic
sense of disapproval, resentment, an urge to disturb, change or totally
destroy the existing order of things. This deep disapproval, coupled
with a rush of energy seeking destruction, is what we call as anger. Are
we one on this?<br />
It is a deep sense of disapproval and a surge of energy seeking to
change something. If this be anger, then let’s come to the second kind
of anger. When the mind is clean, it becomes even more visible that so
much around us is unclean. When the mind is still, it becomes even more
sensitive to the fact that all around us is just disturbance. When the
mind is joyful, it becomes even more alert to the fact that the world is
suffering, that the world is not enjoying that same inner bliss as you
are. When the mind has tasted love, then it cannot bear the fact that
people, societies, institutions, go on living on the assumption that
life has to be loveless. When the mind is free, then it totally
disapproves of anything that people accept as necessary bondage. The
mind knows very well that no bondage is necessary; and the mind knows
very well that freedom is beautiful, must we had because <em>it</em> has
had it. So, there is a deep disapproval. In fact this disapproval is
deeper than the disapproval one has on the frustration of his own
limited personal desires. One has started knowing how to live and what
living really means. Then there is a great disapproval on seeing that
all around us, there is so little life and so much of death. That what
people generally construe as living is not living at all. There is bound
to be a great disapproval. And because this disapproval is real, it
cannot remain dissociated with action. Along with this disapproval,
there is also an honest expression of the disapproval in the form of
energy. Now this is beautiful, but this is also what we call as anger.
You look at one such man and you will say he is angry, because
superficially he would be displaying all the signs that you see being
displayed by a man whose desire has been thwarted. So you will say, “Oh!
He is angry”. And anger, we have been told by our holy man, is a bad
thing.<br />
Anger really is not bad. If there is one thing that you may want to call bad, is<em>misplaced anger</em>.
Misplaced anger is surely bad. But then misplaced compassion is equally
bad, misplaced peace is equally bad, misplaced approval is equally bad,
misplaced acceptance is equally bad, misplaced respect is equally bad.
Misplaced anything is equally bad.<br />
We need more people who are angry. Given the situations within us and
around us, and given that we have a young audience here, I am being
very categorical in saying this that <em>We need more people who are angry.</em>
There is no worse sight than a young man who cannot be angry. And most
of us really do not know anger, seriously. What we know is our petty
sense of irritation, frustration. We remain piqued. We never know the
manliness of anger. We don’t know that. We have no idea what it means.
In the name of anger, all we know is pinching and poking. We do not know
the anger of ‘<em>Shiv’</em>, we do not know the ‘<em>taandav</em>’. We do not know the urge for complete destruction, which is ‘<em>pralaya</em>’.
We do not know that. We know a little bit of shouting, stamping of
feet, creation of disturbance, a little bit of sloganeering, and then
going back and sleeping. Or maybe we will hurl a few abuses at somebody.
I am angry so I am hurling abuses at you. This is what we mean by
anger. In this anger, anger is not bad but the pettiness is bad. This
anger is petty anger and I object to the pettiness, not to the anger.
Kindly be angry, but don’t be angry on petty matters; and all your
personal matters are petty. That is what misplaced anger is. That is the
wrong center from where most of our anger emanates; our petty limited
ego.<br />
“Why am I angry? Somebody stole my toothbrush”, now the fellow is
angry. “Why am I angry? Someone looked at my boyfriend, so I am angry.”
“Why am I frustrated? Somebody didn’t pick up my call.” “Why are you
shouting abuses? I got two marks less than expected.” “Why are these
people on strike? Why so much of slogan shouting? They want 500 rupees
increase in wage.” “Why are these young people burning the bus? –
Because the buses are not giving them free passes.” “Why the father is
all red-faced? – Because the son is not showing him due respect.”<br />
This is our anger, yes this is bad but why is it bad? – Because it is
petty. I am repeating; it is not bad because it is anger; it is bad
because it is petty. Do be angry but not on these things. These things
you can let pass. You are much bigger than petty matters. You need not
be disturbed by them. Somebody tries to pinch you, you need not be
disturbed. There was some expectation regarding something, it didn’t
materialize, you need not be disturbed. You realize that expectations
are just expectations. Are you getting this?<br />
When you stop being angry at all these little daily petty matters,
then your anger takes a far wider, far more universal existential color.
Now it’s ok. You neither approve nor disapprove of what somebody has to
say regarding your clothes; but given that you are now free from
personal consideration, you now have the scope, the latitude to see what
is happening all around you. <em><a href="http://prashantadvait.com/freedom-quotes/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Free</a> from myself, I become available to existence.</em>
Now it’s ok, I don’t really disapprove of the fact that there is a
power cut and I am sweating; but I deeply disapprove of the fact that
the power that is coming to me is being generated by blocking rivers.
You would have seen people get frustrated and angry when there are power
cuts, have you seen that, especially in summer? But I have never seen
anybody frustrated when the power is there. And we do not realize that
the moments when you are getting the power, the power is coming by
gradually killing a river. Now when should you really be full of
disapproval – when there is a power cut or when the power is flowing?
That is the moment when you should really, really stand up in
disapproval. But then you are not angry. You are angry only when you are
sweating, your petty concern. I have seen people get angry, when at the
end of the month their salary cheques get delayed. And if they get
delayed a lot they can even go and shout, and may be hit somebody. This
is my right. This is my right, how can you hold this, delay this? This
is my due. But they don’t get angry doing the kind of work they do for
30 days of the month. Your salary gets delayed, you say I deserve to get
money, it is my right. But for 30 days of the month you totally forget
that joy is your right. You totally forget that; then you don’t get
angry. And most of the jobs that are around us are such that a man must
rise up against them, in defiance of them. The very moment somebody
mentions that job profile, that job description, it is an insult to you.
How can I accept this work? Do you mean I would be doing this, 30 days
of the month? That is the moment to get angry. But you don’t get angry.
You get angry only when your salary gets delayed. That is petty anger.
That is the variety of anger that degrades you and your entire
surrounding.<br />
So be angry but on the right matters. Let the expanse of your anger
be deeper and wider. I am not the one who will ask you to cull anger.
Why must you do that? That is impotence. In fact this personal kind of
petty anger goes along with indifference and impotency, when it comes to
the real things in life. Most people, who are irritated on small
things, are not at all bothered about the bigger picture. <em>Penny wise found foolish</em>.
About small matters they are particularly alert. One spot on their
shirt and they will get angry, but the entire mind is stained and it
doesn’t bother them. It simply doesn’t bother them. Two rupees lost and
they are angry and the entire life is being lost, it doesn’t bother
them. In the morning, somebody uttered a few words of hatred and it
disturbs them; they feel like retaliating. But their entire life is
loveless; it doesn’t bother them.<br />
So, these two go together – a tendency towards pettiness and a total disregard of that which is large, and <a href="http://prashantadvait.com/reality-quotes/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">real</a>, and really worthy of consideration; these two go together. <em>The more you are concerned with your personal self, the more you will be unconcerned with the large and the real.</em><br />
The fellow gets very angry if his family is given the slightest
discomfort. Obviously, this anger is an impotent anger. It is just a
thing of demonstration. But he at least demonstrates; he anyway cannot
do any more than that. Given the right kinds of incentives and money,
this fellow would be prepared to walk away from the family, and that can
be tried; just the right kind of situations have to be created. Because
all he knows is pettiness; and when you know pettiness, then there is
something even pettier than the family; that is the personal self. “I
know only smallness. Family is small- five people, but smaller than the
family is me- one man.” But anyways, when his family’s comforts are
threatened, this man shows anger. But his heart is not stirred when he
reads of what is happening in Syria or Iraq or China or Korea or
Nigeria. He has no association at all. He lives in his tiny island. The
vast seas are nothing for him. 150 college students got killed
yesterday, how it matters to him. What matters to him is that his wife
has had an argument with the neighbor’s wife. Now that is something
that will get him angry. “Mr. X’s wife is a witch”. Great cause for
existential rebellion- “Mr. X’s wife is a bitch; let me shake the
heavens”. How does it matter that a few more species of animals got
extinct yesterday. How does it matter? “Mr. X’s’s wife is a bitch;
that’s what matters to me.” How does it matter that the largest ever
glaciers has broken of the arctic and it’s a very bad omen. It doesn’t
matter to him. Will the new government reduce the price of electricity
by 5 paisa per unit? This is what matters to him. It doesn’t matter to
him whether the new government will take care of the forest cover,
whether it will make the state more green. But if the new government
says, that we are increasing the parking rates from rupees 20 to rupees
50, then this fellow will be up in arms – “Down with the dictators. They
are asking me 30 rupees more for parking my car and I am planning to
buy two more cars, one for sunny, and one for wifey”. It does not matter
to him that whatever is happening in Iran today, is happening for the
sake of the oil that runs your car. It doesn’t matter to you. It doesn’t
matter to you that the RSPM levels in Delhi have crossed 350 levels. If
he is travelling on one of the highways that lead to Delhi, somewhere
around 10 or 11 in the night, he would be very angry. “Oh my god! There
is such congestion on the highway around 10 pm or 11 pm; all the trucks
are entering.” And why is he angry? -Because the trucks are causing him a
delay. But he is not at all angry that all these trucks are shrouded in
a cloud of dust. He is not at all angry that all these trucks are
running on a mixture of kerosene and diesel. He is not at all angry that
these 80,000 trucks that enter Delhi everyday have to enter because he
consumes so much. He is not angry. He is angry because – “Oh! This jam
is causing me a delay in reaching home and dear wifey is waiting”.<br />
<em>Be angry but be angry for the right reasons. Let your anger spring from the right center, not your petty self.</em>
If you cannot be angry then you are dead as most of us are. And to hide
our impotency, our emasculation, we say we are peaceful and non-violent
people. “How can I be angry? I am composed.” You are not composed, you
are just furniture. Furniture doesn’t get angry, but furniture cannot
love either. Do you see how loveless is your life? If anger means
disapproval, please do disapprove. If anger means a surge in energy, a
great desire to do something, please have that surge and please do
something. But operate from the right center. And remember please, you
cannot have right anger, if the other things in your life are not right.
When everything else is wrong, how can anger be right?<em> You must
have right remembrance, you must have the right attention, and you must
read rightly, you must listen rightly; you must have the right company.
Everything must be right, and then anger will also be right.</em><br />
Anger cannot be right in isolation. If everything else about you is
wrong and petty, then anger too is bound to be wrong and petty. Do not
be too bothered with the problem of anger. Do not try to look at the one
fragment of mind and quarantine it. <em>Whatever is the quality of your <a href="http://prashantadvait.com/life-quotes/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">life</a> that is also the quality of your anger.</em>When
life is genuine, then anger is also genuine. When life is fake, then
all you have is fake anger. When life has depth, then anger too has
depth. When life is shallow then anger is just as we said, poking and
pinching.<br />
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You cannot dynamite the damn system. So, all that you do is, paint
some vulgar graffiti on it. Have you seen people doing that? How they
decorate the walls. That is anger, but that is an impotent expression of
anger. Just as everything else in life is vulgar, so is your graffiti.
If you really disapprove of things, dynamite them and pay the price;
whatever be the price. Anger is not at all bad. But not anger of the
kind that you see. Road rage- “You touched my bumper”. Now the fellow is
frothing from his mouth. “You touched my bumper”. It’s just the bumper
of the car, I didn’t really slap your back side. But it’s a matter of
existential importance. “You scratched my bumper”.<br />
Leave these things aside, ignore them. Have the vastness to be
untouched by these little matters. But then there has to be vastness in
everything, a sky like vastness; and unless that sky like vastness is
there in life, how can that be there on road.<br />
You will get angry, abusing- “That fellow is not using dipper”, “That
fellow is not allowing me to overtake”, “He didn’t reach on time”, “He
didn’t serve me tea”, “He blinked twice while looking at me”, “He didn’t
blink at all while looking at me”, “He didn’t pay the bills”, “He let
me pay the bill for the tea, why must I pay”, “He was looking less at me
and more at my wife”.<br />
Examine what all is petty and yet takes so much of your mind.
Examine. And if it is there in your mind, it means you are giving it
importance and if you are giving it importance, it will also become a
cause for anger, and that will be petty anger. Petty concerns petty
anger; petty objects in mind, petty anger. Somebody is offering you the
water and you are angry, why? Because he extended his left hand. “Left
handed water? Must be a communist, or a tantric”. That’s called the
left-handed way.<br />
<em>Next time, when there is this surge of anger, ask yourself- ‘What is at stake?’ </em>Because
anger means something is at stake, something is threatened. Ask
yourself, what is at stake? And that which is at stake, if it is petty,
then this realization will calm down the anger. When you realize you are
angry because of your petty sense of self-respect, that itself will
relax you. And let me assure you there is very little about us that is
not petty. On most moments, when you will be angry, you will find that
the anger is misplaced, that you can do without the anger. But this, if
used as a method, to selectively target only anger, will fail. This must
be remembered; all the time.<br />
“What is occupying my mind, is it something petty? What will happen
to me? What kind of future is there? What I will be doing two years down
the line?”<br />
If thoughts about the <a href="http://prashantadvait.com/2014/02/24/how-to-get-rid-of-insecurity/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">security</a>
of the limited self are filling your mind, then your anger would also
be limited and pertaining to the personal self. You might be sitting,
apparently peacefully, and just wondering about future; anger is nowhere
inside. But let me assure you, anger is building up; because you are
concerned with security, because you are afraid. You could not have been
concerned with <a href="http://prashantadvait.com/security-quotes/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">security</a>,
had you not been afraid. And where there is fear, how can anger be far
away. So, fellow is silently sitting, pondering; he will never come up
and ask, “Why am I silently sitting and pondering?” – Because he does
not know yet that anger is building up or that anger is already there,
unexpressed. <em>Catch your pettiness right now. Not in the moment of explosion.</em>
Catch your pettiness when you are sitting, walking, eating, sleeping,
talking. Remove this pettiness from you internal system, and then your
anger will be divine.<br />
<strong>Listener:</strong> It is very difficult to know whether it is
a rightly placed anger, or a misplaced anger. How will I know whether
the anger is coming from the right center?<br />
<strong>Speaker:</strong> You don’t have to wonder whether it is coming from the right place. Just ask, “What is at stake?” Forget everything else. <em>What is at stake?</em>
And you must be very ruthless about this. This cannot be asked
sentimentally, or with prejudice. You have to clearly see – “What is at
stake? What am I losing? What is threatened?” And when you come to that,
look at it starkly; that will be sufficient.<br />
Also remember, that self-observation, in the moment of this every day
anger, this petty anger, becomes difficult. It is any way difficult for
us, and in the moment of anger it becomes all the more difficult. So do
not limit this question-<em>What is at stake? </em> Do not limit or
reserve this question for your angry moments. Keep asking it all the
time. You are trying to show friendliness towards somebody, ask
yourself- “What is at stake? Why am I trying to act so nice and warm?
What is my <a href="http://prashantadvait.com/greed-quotes/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">greed</a>? What do I want? What is threatened? What will I lose if I do not act friendly towards this person?”<br />
You must always know this – ‘W<em>hat is at stake?’</em>. By knowing, ‘W<em>hat is at stake?’</em>, you are confronting your <a href="http://prashantadvait.com/fear-quotes/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">fear</a>;
because that is what is always asking you to do something; that is the
center from which we operate. Pettiness means fear. “I am small, and I
am threatened, and I will be wiped out. So let me do this, let me do
that. Sometimes I have to play nice, sometimes I have to act angry,
sometimes I have to manipulate, sometimes I have to calculate.” Ask- ‘<em>What is at stake?’ a</em>nd
you will be amazed as to what lengths we go to procure and secure
very-very small things. You will be amazed at the kind of fakeness we
display for relatively very small sums of money. A fellow will be
prepared to tell all kind of lies for Rs. 50. Rs. 50 is threatened, so
he will lie. Somebody was mentioning to me that even well-placed
employees, in so-called branded organizations, they pick up things from
office. The fellow might be earning a fat sum, still he is stealing
pens, and paper weights, and envelopes, and toilet rolls from office.
And it must be an elaborate process, right? I do not know how he is
ensuring to take these things out. To such great lengths do we go!<br />
‘What is at stake?’ – the question has to be asked. How much will I
lose? What is there to be lost? What am I trying to gain? What am I
trying to defend and protect? Slowly you will find that the need for
anger is dissolving. You need not be angry. You are not afraid and you
are not angry. You are not defending anything and you are not trying to
get anything. So you are not angry.<br />
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~ Excerpts from a Clarity session. Edited for clarity.<br />
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Dear Friend,<br />
A Question was asked to me in one of my Samvaad session. So, this is the answer I had given to him. It will be useful to you.<br />
<br />
Q&A:<br />
<a href="http://www.querynanswer.com/question/how-to-deal-with-anger/">http://www.querynanswer.com/question/how-to-deal-with-anger/</a> </div>
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Dear Friend,<br />
A Question was asked to me in one of my Samvaad session. So, this is the answer I had given to him. It will be useful to you.<br />
<strong>Question 1:</strong> How to develop the capacity to take right decisions?<br />
<strong>Speaker:</strong> Right decisions spring from right life. We
focus so much on the art of decision-making. Even management institutes
teach that, right? Somebody is teaching mathematical modeling for
decision-making, somebody is teaching strategic decision-making. What
they don’t tell is the most fundamental thing – that the quality of your
life is the quality of all your decisions.<br />
An ambitious life is going to make ambitious decisions. A scared life
is going to make scared decisions. If you want to make the right
decisions, then live a right life. The right decision will automatically
come from there. Then you don’t even have to worry about a particular
decision. All your decisions will be right.<br />
Also remember: you regret only a few decisions. You say, “I took ten
decisions, out of which two went wrong.” And you regret them, right? You
don’t regret everything. But I am guaranteeing you that if decisions
are wrong, then it is not just two decisions that are wrong. It is all
ten that are wrong. It is just that you caught two decisions as being
wrong. It is just that those two decisions made their effects so visible
and apparent that you could say that they have gone wrong. The other
eight too are wrong. It is just that right now you are incapable to see
how wrong your other eight decisions are.<br />
From the wrong life, everything that emerge will be wrong. Even the
simplest decision will be wrong. You will not even know which seat to
take in an auditorium. You will not know when to drink water. You will
not know which clothes to wear. Even the most trivial decisions will be
wrong. You will not know what kind of hair to keep. You will not know
how to address your servant. No decision will be right from a wrong
mind. It’s a great punishment, is it not?<br />
To have the right decision, live rightly. Be aware at every point.
Live in remembrance. Be close to the world, but don’t indulge in it.
Live in the Truth.<br />
When you live in the Truth, then all your decisions in the world are right.<br />
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<strong>Speaker:</strong> How do you know anything? Right now, how do you choose anything? (<em>Pointing at the watch the questioner is wearing)</em> How did you choose that watch in your hand? How did you choose this denim that you are wearing?<br />
<strong>Listener 1:</strong> It looks good.<br />
<strong>Speaker:</strong> Looks good! And this watch is comfortable
on your wrist? This one too seems comfortable. So what is the problem
with choosing a technical domain? If it looks good, choose it. Visit the
university, and if it looks good, choose <em>(laughter)</em>. Or is
there a fundamental difference? If we are comfortable with choosing in
this way, then why not make another choice this way? So many people here
are of a marriageable age. How will you choose your spouses? Looks
good!!!<br />
<em>(Laughter)</em><br />
Looks good! What is the problem in choosing like that? If you are
alright with choosing everything that looks good, sounds good, is driven
by situations, like your presence over here today, then choose.<br />
<strong>Listener 2:</strong> In case of these outfits, I had already
tried a couple of them earlier. So I had some idea that these too would
be of same kind. But in case of subject of interest, I have not already
tried all of the domains. So, I cannot say anything about them.<br />
<strong>Speaker:</strong> <em>(Again pointing at the wrist watch)</em> Have you ever worn this wrist watch earlier?<br />
<strong>Listener 2:</strong> I have worn the one of the same kind.<br />
<strong>Speaker:</strong> Of the same kind. So, there is hardly any
difference between a new university and the college that you are in
right now. The difference is only in degree, not in dimension. A
university offers hundred courses, a college offers eight courses. A
university might be two-hundred acres, a college is twenty acres. The
difference is only in degree. So, a kid wears a kiddish wrist watch,
grown-ups wear a branded wrist watch. A wrist watch is a wrist watch.
Fundamentally it is a machine, dealing with time.<br />
So, just as you have been making all your choices till now, also
choose your technical domain of interest. Or, be sharp about the real
problem that you are facing. If you are intelligent enough, capable
enough, and smart enough to choose a wrist watch, then he should also be
intelligent and capable enough to choose the field of higher studies.
Why are you hesitating here?<br />
You make a thousand decisions every day, don’t you? And you don’t
come and complain that – “I do not know what decision to make.” You make
those decisions, and you live with them. Now here, another decision is
to be made. What makes you confused?<br />
<strong>Listener 2:</strong> Sir, the lack of sureness is regarding how well I would be able to do in that particular field.<br />
<strong>Speaker:</strong> What do you mean by ‘doing well’?<br />
<strong>Listener 2:</strong> Feeling comfortable with every aspect of it.<br />
<strong>Speaker:</strong> What exactly does that mean?<br />
<strong>Listener 2:</strong> Liking it.<br />
<strong>Speaker:</strong> Try it.<br />
Just as you try your clothes in the change room, try this too. Or,
ask others. And sometimes you don’t even try. You know sometimes it
happens that you might not feel particularly comfortable in jeans, but
if everybody else is wearing jeans, if it’s a fashion, then you are okay
with it. You might be little uncomfortable, and we all know that jeans
are not the most uncomfortable piece of clothing, yet you keep wearing
jeans because everybody else is wearing it. Similarly, ask people how
they feel in that particular university. Ask people who are already in
that field. And if they say, “Yes, we are feeling good, you too can do
that,” then choose it. That is how we have been taking all our
decisions.<br />
Do you really know about this ring that you are wearing in your finger?<br />
<strong>Listener 2:</strong> No.<br />
<strong>Speaker:</strong> But you are wearing it. So, wear a degree also.<br />
Either admit that you do not know anything, that all your decisions
are simply absurd. Or say, “Just as I have been making all my other
decisions, I will make this one as well.” If you are sure of all the
other decisions that you make in life, why are you not sure about this
one?<br />
Let me tell you the fact. The fact is you do not know a thing. You do
not know why you are wearing this ring, you do not know anything about
this wrist watch, you know nothing about your jeans, you know nothing
about your college, you know nothing why you have chosen a few friends,
you do not really know why you are here right now. You do not know
anything.<br />
You do not know why you are attracted towards something, you do not
know why you are repulsed towards something. You do not know anything.
That is not so bad. What is worse is, that you <em>think</em> that without knowing anything you can make one isolated right decision. That is supremely ignorant and arrogant of you.<br />
With everything falling to pieces, with everything going wrong, you
hope to take one right decision. How is it possible? With a machine that
produces only defective goods, because it is fundamentally, wrongly
configured, you hope to produce one batch of beautiful goods. Is it
possible? Is it possible to take one right decision with <em>this</em> mind,
that is a fundamentally defective manufacturing unit? If a machine that
manufactures, is defective, how many defective pieces it will produce?<br />
<strong>Listeners:</strong> All.<br />
<strong>Speaker:</strong> But our friend thinks that one right piece can be produced. How? How will that happen?<br />
You want to pursue technology. Technology is related to science.
Science does not want to deal with falsehood, at least that is what it
claims. First of all confront the Truth. And the truth is, that right
decisions can be made only with the <a href="http://prashantadvait.com/2015/04/17/solve-your-mind-all-your-problems-will-be-solved/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">right mind</a>.
Right now whether you are listening to me or not is also a decision
that you have made. Will you make the right decision? I do not know.<br />
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You say you want to gain entrance in some
university. There must be some kind of an entrance criteria or a test?
You will have to read, study, prepare. Is your mind into it? Will the
mind make the decision to read, study and prepare? Has the mind made
such decisions in the past?</div>
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What do you ride? A bike? A car? What do your ride?<br />
<strong>Listener 2:</strong> Both.<br />
<strong>Speaker:</strong> Both. You have a car. It has a flat tyre.
You want to drive five hundred kilometers. What do you do? You keep
going, you rush ahead? Or, do you stop? You stop, and you change the
tyre. With this kind of a tyre where would you go? Where would you
reach? But you say, “No, changing tyre is a waste of time. How can I
invest my Sundays in this? I am in a hurry. I have to cover five hundred
kilometers. I cannot stop to service the machine. I cannot stop to
change the tyre. I cannot stop to look at the health of my car. I have
to reach. I am in a hurry to reach.”<br />
Why did the tyre get flat? Because you were in a hurry. What will
ensure that you do not change the flat tyre? Your hurry. The same thing
that corrupts the mind, is the same thing that prevents the mind from
cleaning up the corruption. Understand this.<br />
Today if your decisions are all misplaced, it is because of the mind.
And if the mind does not want to correct itself, it is making another
bad decision in a serious of thousand bad decisions. A thousand bad
decisions you have already made, and you want to make the next one as
well, which is to not to correct the mind which made those decisions.
And obviously the mind will make no decision other than this decision,
because it is accustomed to making only wrong decisions.<br />
This is a very simple question. A very, very simple question. The
fish knows in which direction to swim. Or does it not? You too will know
what to study, which technical field to choose, but only when you live
in water as simply as the fish lives. The fish knows in which direction
to swim. Have you ever seen a confused fish? Have you ever seen career
counseling centers for fish?<br />
<em>(Laughter)</em><br />
<em>(Sarcastically)</em> And the fishes are going, everyone queued
up. And one fish is asking, “What will happen after we are dead?” One
fish wants to become a shark; obviously a shark of the Atlantic ocean,
not of the Indian Ocean.<br />
<em>(Laughter)</em><br />
<em>(Sarcastically)</em> <i>Desi</i> sharks? Who wants them? Must be a fair colored shark, an Ivy League shark.<br />
The fish knows. The wind knows. The seasons know. Everything knows. Why don’t <em>you</em> know? Why are you so confused? The stars know.<br />
Look around you. Everything knows. Everything is perfectly sure and
certain. And you don’t even know what to eat. Had it been in your
control you would have allowed yourself to be confused in whether to
breathe or not. That is why this power has not been given to you.<br />
<em>(Laughter)</em><br />
Seriously, that is why breathing happens on its own. Otherwise you
will get confused. The heart pumps on its own. Otherwise you will be
doing things with the heart. “I have an Ivy League heart. It must beat
faster.” Thankfully you have no say in that.<br />
You will know. The answer will come to you very, very smoothly. And
the answer will come to you without your effort. You will simply know.<br />
And you will know in moments when you have not even planned to know.
Generally talking to somebody, something will become clear. Generally
while reading the newspaper, something will become clear. Sometimes even
without deciding, the decision will come to you. But for that, as I
said, you will have to live as the fish lives in the sea: smoothly,
without resistance.<br />
In genuine, natural, freedom and wisdom, decisions become simple.
There is hardly anything left to decide. You are not wondering,
pondering, setting up a committee, and the committee is taking six years
to submit its report. “What to do?” Chewing your nails! “What to do?”<br />
Have you seen people trying to decide, whom to marry? How confused?
“What will happen?” And then she will ask, “Sir, when did soul come into
their kid’s body?” It never came. Soulless marriage, soulless child!<br />
Whatever happens out of your deliberate decision, out of your
thinking, can have no soul really. And here when I say ‘soul’, I mean –
the Truth, the essence, the reality. I am assuring this to you- whenever
you will <em>decide</em> upon something, it will not have the same quality as is there in spontaneous action. Never!<br />
But to act spontaneously you will have to feel a little free. You
will have to allow yourself to relax. You will have to say to yourself,
“Things are alright. I can chill out.”<br />
Decision-making is not at all a complicated science or an art. “Sir, I do not know what to do?” How do you not <a href="http://prashantadvait.com/2015/04/01/how-to-know-what-is-good-for-me/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">know </a>what
to do? Explain that first. It is not a question about what to do. The
bigger question is – how do you not know what to do? How did you manage
this? It’s a miracle.<br />
Live rightly and the right decisions will start springing. You will
then not have to plan, or deliberately decide anything. Right actions
will start happening on their own.<br />
– Excerpts from a Clarity Session held at Advait Sthal. Edited for clarity.<br />
For, Further clearance or Similar queries or any Life related problems, you can visit my Blog ‘Words into Silence’.<br />
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A Question was asked to me in one of my Samvaad session. So, this is the answer I had given to him. It will be useful to you. The transcription is given below</div>
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<strong style="box-sizing: border-box; font-weight: 700;">Speaker:</strong><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span>All humans in the living body are confined by needs of the body. Isn’t it then too much to ask for unconditional love, for those who hurt you when actually you are deeply affected by that hurt? How can one practically take all the hurt, pain, criticism from others and yet love them unconditionally? Is this real and achievable?</div>
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We have all experienced the excitement, the euphoria, the bliss of the so-called ordinary love; mortal love, Ishq-e-majazi, and it is wonderful. It is just that it depends on somebody for its being. It has a particular reason for its existence and that reason most often is one particular person. There is a particular person in life and usually of the opposite gender. So there is one particular person, and the presence of that person has opened some doors for me. It has brought the mind to a particular condition. That is our ordinary love, what we call as conditional love. What then is unconditional love?<br style="box-sizing: border-box;" /><span id="more-3156" style="box-sizing: border-box;"></span></div>
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Unconditional love is when you are in the same state of mind, and you experience the same euphoria, the same excitement, the same bliss perhaps even more intense. You experience it even more intensely but with no reason. In ordinary love there is that feeling of lightness for a reason, and because there is a reason, the reason can be taken away. So consequently, there will always be fear associated with that. The feeling will never be very deep. You would experience bliss, accompanied by fear, so things would be very superficial. There would be boundaries. Fear would be lurking around the corner. Unconditional love does not mean love him and love her and love all of them in the same way as if you are loving that particular person of yours. It is misconception. Unconditional love is not an expansion of conditional love. What we often think is that just as I have feelings and attachment for a particular one person, if the same kind of feeling and attachment is there for 20,000 persons or the entire universe, then this is called as unconditional love. No, this is not unconditional love. Unconditional love means experiencing the bliss of love without any conditions attached, without any reasons. Reason is a condition.</div>
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Love is not something that is applicable to a relationship in particular. Love is not something that has greatly to do with a relationship. Love does not have greatly to do with the other. Love is your own state of mind. The other does not have much to do with love. That’s another misconception. That for love there has to be a presence of the other. Not needed. Love is essentially between the mind and the source, and because the source is the source of the mind itself, so again it is not between two entities, not between two separate entities.</div>
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Dear Achint,<br />
am I answering someone, am I replying to someone who does not know
his real identity? Am I talking to someone who believes he is somebody,
he is actually not? And if that is the case, how will that ignorant mind
understand?<br />
Who is asking? Achint is asking. ‘Somebody’ is asking me this
question, some ‘identity‘ is asking me this question. Right? You are
always in an identity in your mind. You are always ‘somebody’. If I ask
you to write something about yourself, you will write so many things
about yourself, you are somebody in your mind.<br />
So Achint is asking this question to me as ‘somebody’. Now if this
somebody who is asking me this question is deeply mistaken about who he
is, then it will be impossible to communicate. Why? Because his identity
is his immediate reality, he deeply believes in it. If I refer to him
as ‘Pranav’ he will not respond. Why? Because he is deeply convinced of
his identity as ‘Achint ’.<br />
Don’t we all deeply believe in our identities? Aren’t we greatly
convinced about them? We are. Now if he is greatly convinced that he is
‘Achint’ and he asks me that what is my real identity, then my reply
would be, “What can I say about your real identity. You already know
that you are ‘Achint’.You are deeply convinced that you are ‘Achint’.”<br />
If I ask you Achint, to write twenty statements beginning with ‘I
am’, you would gleefully write twenty statements about yourself in five
minutes. Now when you are so clear so clear about who you are, when you
are so clear about your identity, then how can anybody give an answer to
your question?<br />
Read the whole disourse at:<br />
<a href="http://prashantadvait.com/2015/04/19/when-you-believe-in-your-identity-you-will-never-know-the-reality/">http://prashantadvait.com/2015/04/19/when-you-believe-in-your-identity-you-will-never-know-the-reality/</a><br />
Watch the discourse:<br />
<a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vAKiu419jo">https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vAKiu419jo</a><br />
Q&A:<br />
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07426461466985611516noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3038646618072853386.post-65620877074067574132015-07-17T21:14:00.005-07:002015-07-17T21:14:54.327-07:00 I see advertise and i get a urge to buy the thing, so i have known that those really are not my desire. so how to know that what i really want?<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
I have heard that a survey was done among dying people. People who
were terminally ill when they were asked that now that you are close to
the end of your life, are you satisfied? Particularly, they were asked
about the amount of money that they have. A very wonderful thing
emerged. Those who had 200 dollars said that they we would have been
happier if they would have had 2000 dollars. Those who had 500 dollars,
they said that they were not yet satisfied. They wanted 5000 dollars.
One of the billionaires who was dying said that I would have been
satisfied, if I had 10 billion dollars in my account. The ratio was
constant, 1:10. It doesn’t matter how much you have, you want ten times
more. So, the want remains equally strong irrespective of how much you
have achieved. The want never goes away. And the want, is always of
wantlessness.<br />
So, why not straight away come to the ultimate desire? The ultimate
desire is to be free of desire; freedom from desire. You have to look
very cautiously at it. Freedom from desire is not the killing of desire,
it is also not the absence of desire. It is just the freedom from
desire. Freedom from desire means that desire is there but desire is
there at its own place and I am there at my own place. That desire is
not dominating me. This chair is there, I am related to this chair in
some way, but yet I am free of this chair. I sat on it on my own accord
and I can get up from it on my own accord. Freedom from desire; the
desirelessness; the wantlessness means that the desire stands at its own
place and I am not a slave of this desire.<br />
There is the brain. There is the body. Desire is there, but I am not
dominated by it. I can understand how it arises. I can see its origin,
its source. It is going away. Everything is obvious, but it is not too
much upon me. And then, your mind will not be able to fool you.Then you
won’t be deceived by all these promises that want a little more. May be
that is what will make you happy. Then life will not be boring. Then,
you won’t feel distracted all the time. All this distraction is just
dissatisfaction. I want something else, I want something else.
Distraction is just dissatisfaction. And we are distracted all the time.
This only means that the mind is making an utter fool of you. You are
thinking that instead of this if you have something else, you will be
satisfied. You will never be satisfied. Wherever you are, whatever you
get, will you ever be satisfied? You are just being fooled by an empty
promise. Watch the desire. Understand the desire. That is wantlessness.
That is desirelessness. Simple. Obvious. Right?<br />
For more queries on Fundamentals of life or Spiritual Teachings You can visit my Blog ‘Words into Silence’.<br />
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07426461466985611516noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3038646618072853386.post-52314298012715544002015-07-17T21:11:00.001-07:002015-07-17T21:11:16.941-07:00How money should one should have to be satisfied?<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
Satisfaction comes out of achieving something. Satisfaction is a
demand. A demand that is never really met. You say, ‘I will be satisfied
when I get something’. So, it is always conditional. There is a
condition imposed, ‘If I get this I will be satisfied’.<br />
So you are condemning yourself to torture. You are saying, ‘Keep me
perpetually dissatisfied so that I may keep moving, like a rocket. Like a
rocket, my back must always be on fire, only then I can move ahead.’
This is the way the entire world moves. ‘Why am I studying? So that I
may not fail.’There is the fear of failure in examination, that is why I
am studying.’ So what is the environment in which this studying is
happening? The environment of fear. This is what happens to a man whose
engine is dissatisfaction. But the world wants you to be dissatisfied so
that you can move in ways that please the world. So, they’ll teach you,
‘Go ahead, get this! and unless you get this, you are worthless’.
Unless you become somebody, you are not even worthy of love’. As I said
that this is a very horrible way of living. This is slow torcher. All
your life you are being kept dissatisfied. There is something more to be
had, something more to achieve. And this is being given the name of
progress, that this is progress. This is rubbish.<br />
The alternate way, the real way of living is, ‘I am what I am. I am
alright, now and always. Nothing can be added to me, nothing can be
taken away from me. And in this feeling of wellness, of completeness, I
do something. I do not do something in order to get something. I do
something because I feel so good. I am feeling so good that I want to
dance, and that dance comes out as a beautiful action. So something is
happening, something beautiful is happening. It’s a very energetic
dance, a very beautiful dance. And I am not obliged to keep dancing. I
am not a professional dancer. I will stop when I want to stop. I am not
dancing so that you may applaud me, I am dancing because I am feeling
like it. Out of my contentment I am doing something. Not to get
something else, not to be a super achiever’.<br />
For Brief reading, you can go my blog, ‘Words into Silence’ ;<br />
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07426461466985611516noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3038646618072853386.post-31039161920836606772015-07-17T21:09:00.006-07:002015-07-17T21:09:57.955-07:00Is there any difference between attention and meditation?<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<span style="color: #5f6f81; font-family: 'Lato','serif';">Dear Friend,</span></div>
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<span style="color: #5f6f81; font-family: 'Lato','serif';">A
Question was asked to me in one of my Samvaad session on your topic
Meditation. So, this is the answer I had given to him. It will be useful
to you.</span></div>
<strong>Question: </strong>What is meditation? Why the practice of meditation keeps one in bondage?<br />
<strong>Speaker: </strong>Meditativeness is simply our inner nature.
To meditate is different from any kind of mental exertion or mental
activity. To meditate is to be at a point where parallely two non-events
are happening. First, there is no need for mental activity. Because
there is no need for any activity, so I am calling it a non-event. So
there is no need to think or solve problems, or resist challenges or
plan. No need is felt. Secondly, and parallely, even though there is no
need to gather knowledge, yet all is known.<br />
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Most of the knowledge that we have, comes to us because the insecure
one within us needs to have information from the world. That is the
reason why we seek knowledge, there is a feeling of incompleteness and
the possibility of some loss, if that knowledge is not there. “Something
would be reduced, something would be diminished within me if I do not
have this knowledge”, that is the reason why we chase and store
knowledge.<br />
In meditativeness, there is knowing without the need to know.
Obviously, this knowing is not about people, things, ideas, concepts or
places, which themselves are a product of insecurity. In the great
security of meditativeness, there is a great realization. Of what?
Surely not of that which itself is a product of insecurity.<br />
Essentially both attention and meditation are same, used in different
contexts. When dealing with the world in a meditative state, you are
said to be ‘in attention’. But it’s the same thing, just that it is used
in a different context. In general, when you use the word ‘meditation’,
you mean being centered. When you use the word ‘attention’, it means
that you are dealing with the world with a particular quality of the
mind. That quality is meditation.<br />
For, Further clearance or Similar queries or any Life related problems, you can visit my Blog ‘Words into Silence’.<br />
Or, you may visit my you tube channels for further clarity-<br />
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07426461466985611516noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3038646618072853386.post-16979373885635485782015-07-17T21:09:00.001-07:002015-07-17T21:09:11.899-07:00What is right and what is wrong?<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
Dear Friend,<br />
A Question was asked to me in one of my Samvaad session. So, this is the answer I had given to him. It will be useful to you.<br />
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All these notions of right and wrong that are coming from outside
are totally time and place dependent. Change the time, right will
change, wrong will change. Change the place, right will change, wrong
will change. Don’t you see right and wrong keep changing?<span style="color: black; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif;"><br />
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The notions of right and wrong, whenever they come from outside
they keep changing. There is nothing at all sacred about them. All kinds
of codes of conduct are so very variable even this day, not only
between one nation and other but also between one community and other
community. In a place like U.S. different states have their different
laws even on personal matters like sexual matters. What is right in one
state is totally wrong in another state. Totally wrong!</div>
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one great right is your awareness. Whatever you do in your
awareness is right. The society may call it wrong but it actually is
right. The world, the laws, the rules may call it wrong but it actually
is right. That is the only right, that which comes out of your
awareness, your intelligence and hence the only wrong is to be stupid.
The only wrong is to be a slave to external influences, nothing else is
wrong. <span style="color: black; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif;"><br />
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The great existential right is your being, is your intelligence. Have courage, don’t succumb to fear, let that happen.</div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07426461466985611516noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3038646618072853386.post-53718586920557348162015-07-17T21:08:00.001-07:002015-07-17T21:08:07.865-07:00 Desire is the memory of pleasure, and fear is the memory of pain. Both make the mind restless. Moments of pleasure are merely gaps in the stream of pain. If our natural state is joy, then why do we slip out of this state?<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
Dear,<br />
When you have slipped out of that state, then you should enquire. The
only way to learn about a state is to ask the question when you are in
the state, or observe others who are not in that state. You will come to
know.<br />
Why does anybody slip out of that state? Why does anybody slip out of
peace? The primary cause is the body itself. The primary cause is that
you are born. Kabir says, “Your first problem is that you are born.” If
you are born, then you have created opportunity for conditioning to take
place. Start from there. So why is suffering there? Because all this is
there.<br />
Suffering is there. For exactly the same reason this wall is there.
This wall is there, just as the body is there. This wall is there, using
the same faculties that the body uses. So as long as this wall is
there, suffering will be there. This wall is there because you are a
body. This world is there because the mind is like this. As long as this
world is, there is suffering.<br />
Why is all this there? That may not be a very useful question. A
better question might be- what is all this that is there? Understand the
difference. Whenever you say,”Why is this happening?”, you are being
ungrateful. The question of ‘why’ always has a little bit of complaint
in it. “Why is all this?” It always has a little bit of rejection in it.
It always has a little bit of judgement in it. The question of ‘what’
has love in it. Because you can ask ‘what’ only when you come close to
something.<br />
When you say, “I want to know that why something is there,” then you
want to know its cause. And the cause is not that thing. So your primary
interest is in something else, not in that thing. Your primary interest
is in what? The cause. Now you cannot know, because you are not
interested in the thing, the fact of the thing. You are interested in
the cause of the thing, which is separate from the thing.<br />
But when you ask ‘what’ then you have to come close to what you are
enquiring about. Always ask ‘what’, never ask ‘why’, ‘where’, ‘when’.
What is life? What is happening? What is mind? What is this thing that I
call ‘I’? ‘What’ is direct enquiry? Not ‘why’, but ‘what’? It is a
beautiful question to ask. Always.<br />
So I will ask him, “What is ego?” It doesn’t pay much to ask, “Why is
ego?” He doesn’t know ‘what is ego?’ how can he answer, ‘why is ego?’
Once you know ‘what is ego’ the other questions vanish. It can be such a
good past time. Whenever somebody says, “One must think of his career,”
ask him, “What is career?” If someone says, “You are not loyal to me,”
ask him, “What is loyalty?” And you will start discovering.<br />
Why don’t we know? Why do we suffer? Because we don’t enquire.
Because we take things for granted. Some good old religious man has said
something, so it must be true. We don’t enquire. Fearlessly we do not
go to the fact. What is it? We have hopes, and our eyes are obfuscated
with hope. What is this? Don’t be swayed by emotions. Don’t become
involved too easily. Ask, “What is all this?” The world may be panicking
around you. There may be a great commotion. The entire crowd may be
rushing somewhere. You stop for a while, and ask, “What is all this?
What is all this?”<br />
Your own mind may be feeling completely for something, or against
something. Don’t just say, ‘This is what I want to do.” Ask, “What
exactly is this happening? Why am I acting this way? Do I really know
what I am doing? Do I understand?” When you utter words, ask yourself,
“What is this that I have said. Do I really understand any of these
words?” And then you are home. The moment this enquiry begins – what is
this- you start finding the mind relaxing into joy. That is joy, mind’s
natural state.<br />
Mind has a kind of new-found confidence – fearlessness. Even in your
worst situations when you ask, “What is this?” you will find that the
mind has started smiling. Try this. Whatever be the situation, when you
ask, “What is this?” you will find that you are now separate from the
situation. Something has changed.<br />
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07426461466985611516noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3038646618072853386.post-56012400237310113922015-07-17T21:05:00.002-07:002015-07-17T21:05:49.672-07:00 Why cannot I make others understand?<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
Dear<br />
You want to show what you have got because it makes you feel nice. It helps <em>you</em>believe that you have actually got something. Especially if others ratify that this dude now, <em>has something, </em>then
I’ll come to have a more firm belief that “Alright, alright, it’s not
all myth. There is something substantial that I own now”.<span id="more-8015"></span>
You want to show it to others to prove that you have something. And
exactly for the same reason the others will dispute it, to prove that <em>they</em>
have something. The existence of the two parties is at stake. How can
they just accept that you have something? They have to resist, oppose,
remonstrate. The entire process, from both the sides, is just the
process of the ego displaying its wares.<br />
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You don’t <em>have</em> to sing, you don’t <em>have</em> to share, sharing happens! <em>It is the nature of understanding to be shared.</em> It gets shared, you don’t <em>have</em>
to share. In fact, you are not there to share. Who will share? The same
old man? He is no more, how can he share? And if he is still there,
then obviously there is no understanding. Sharing will happen, just
don’t obstruct it. You don’t have to do it. But the doer wants to do- “I
will share!” And it appears so disappointing- “I want to display my new
clothes and nobody’s appreciating”. You go back home and “Look mama,
what I have got!”, and nobody gives a damn. So what do you feel? “Maybe
I’ve been fooled by the shop keeper. Nobody’s appreciating my new
clothes.<br />
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07426461466985611516noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3038646618072853386.post-68485057520713395652015-07-17T21:03:00.001-07:002015-07-17T21:03:27.200-07:00 What is the difference between “attraction” and “love? <div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
Dear friend, I know that as young people, love is a very hot topic for you all, but at least this much should be very clear.<br />
We see instances of attraction, every moment, all the time around us.
There is the game of attraction going on. So somebody bangs the door,
and your mind gets attracted towards that. It is as if the banging of
the door and the movement of mind towards the door are one and the same
thing. If one happens the other has to happen, they are inseparable.
This is attraction.<br />
If put some iron pieces near a magnet, the iron pieces will move
towards the magnet. This is attraction. If two reacting chemicals are
brought together, there is a reaction and the subsequent release of
energy and everything else and that is attraction. So attraction is
obvious, it is happening all the time around us.<br />
It is just a mechanical movement. The iron does not know why it is
getting attracted to the magnet? The magnet does not know why it is
attracting the iron piece? And yet attraction is happening. It is a very
dead thing. Sodium does not know why its atom wants to react with
water? And water does not know why a particular configuration of the
atom must be reacted to? Yet there is a reaction. This is attraction.<br />
You take two metals let’s say, iron and nickel; and keep them in
close contact for long periods of time. And after that you cannot
separate them. Diffusion of molecules of one metal will happen to the
other and some kind of bond will get established between the metals and
some kind of bond will get established between the metals.<br />
If some of you drive an old bike or old car, you will know that old
nuts and bolt cannot be opened. They have to be cut, the nut fuses with
the bolt. The nut fuses with the bolt. So, close together and close
together for a long period of time, space and time; that is attraction.<br />
<strong><em>Space and time is attraction.</em></strong><br />
Space and time is also this world. What is this world? This world is
all this that appears all spread around, so space. And this world is the
past and future, so time.<br />
<strong><em>Attraction and the world are inseparable. Attraction is the fundamental quality of this world.</em></strong><br />
And remember this world by itself has no life, it is a mechanical
system. Apple gets attracted towards earth; earth gets attracted towards
apple, fundamental quality. And where there is attraction, there is
repulsion as well. So attraction and repulsion, that is what this
universe is all about and this universe is time and space. We just said
close together and there is attraction. If you keep iron and magnet very
far away, attraction will become almost zero.<br />
You very well know even the gravitational pull is inversely
proportional to the square of the separation distance between the two
interacting objects. So you increase the distance and the pull will
become almost zero. You require time and you require closeness in space.
So, if you are with a person since a long period of time, you will get
attached.<br />
<strong><em>Attachment is the fruit of attraction in time. Attraction
happens right now and when attraction continues in time then what you
get is attachment. Attraction is a dead thing and attachment is an
equally dead thing.</em></strong><br />
So iron and magnet, they will attract each other and if they stay in
touch for a long period of time, they will also get attached. And that
is the fact of our relationships. There is attraction and after that
there is attachment. And sometimes we give the name love to either of
these. But this universe only knows attraction and attachment, it knows
no love.<br />
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Love is a totally different quality, love is understanding. And love
does not relate to being attracted. To get attracted you require the
mind to be dull, to be stupid. Only a stupid mind gets attracted and
attached, an unhealthy mind, a diseased mind. A mind that feels
incomplete and so it wants to go and cling to something and somebody,
and feel complete. You very well know why chemicals react? One chemical
has some shortage of electron so it wants the other atom to provide
those electrons, right? Either by transfer or by sharing. So attraction
happens when there is a feeling of incompleteness. And whenever you feel
incomplete, that is <em>dis-ease</em>, you are uncomfortable, restless.<br />
Love on the other hand is the quality of a healthy mind that feels
complete in itself. Because it feels complete in itself, because it is a
healthy mind; all its relationships are also healthy. A healthy
relationship is also called a loving relationship, it is so simple.<br />
<em>Love has no excitement or titillation about it. It is a simple being in health.</em><br />
When you relate to other not because of greed or fear, it is love.
But unfortunately if we look at our relationships, there is greed, fear
and expectation always, always present. And where there is greed, fear,
expectation, insecurity; there can be no love. There would be jealousy
and possessiveness and there could be discord and strife, but no love.
So there is nothing sensational about love, it is so simple.<br />
<em>The relationships of a healthy mind are loving relationships.</em><br />
When you do not relate to the other in order to get something from him, it is love.<em>Where you are feeling so full towards yourself, that you feel no violence toward world, it is love.</em>Love
is not about creating boundaries, my family, my people, my love, my
house. Love is like the sun full in itself so its brightness falls on
everybody; its warmth is available to all. Wherever it goes, it brings
light. That is love. But love, in spite of being such a simple thing
cannot really be an object of discussion. Because love comes from a
healthy mind; and health simply means freedom from disease.<br />
<em>We do not need to work toward health; we only need freedom from the disease.</em><br />
<em>As long as the mind it diseased, it will be experiencing
attraction and attachment. Attractions and attachments are the symptoms
of an unhealthy and sick mind.</em><br />
<em>They arise from conditioning. They arise from the latent tendencies of the mind, vritti (Sanskrit word for mental tendencies)</em>.<br />
So these must be the object of consideration.<br />
Why is the mind unhealthy? Can I look at it?<br />
Can I understand how deeply conditioned I am? Can I catch my ways?<br />
Can I observe my daily life and look at the play of conditioning, attraction, attachment?<br />
If you can do that, then just that realization gives me freedom from disease. <em>Freedom from disease is health.</em> And the relationships of a healthy mind are loving relationships, simple.<br />
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So when you talk of love, kindly do not get excited, there is nothing
exciting about love. Just as there is nothing exciting about pure
water. But pure water is life, life giving. There is a lot that is
exciting about fizzy drinks, about liquor. But about water, there is
nothing exciting; it is simple, pure, transparent. Love is like pure
water, it is not sensational, it is not sentimental, it is not
titillating. Love is the quality of a healthy mind. A mind that is not
afraid, a mind that is not carrying the burden of the past or
expectations. That is love.<br />
Never think that a man who is carrying ideologies, a man who is
ambitious, a man who belongs to particular line of thought, can ever be
capable of love. He will carry his sense of violence, into everything
that he does. The man, who is dull and bored and careless and violent in
the office, cannot be a loving father or a loving husband. After all it
is the same mind; he will carry the same mind into the house as well. A
healthy mind will be healthy in all walks of life, throughout the day. A
lady, who does not care for small kids in the slum opposite her house,
cannot be a loving mother. It is impossible. How is it possible to love
your kids, when you only have indifference to the other kids, who are
shivering in the cold? A man, who kills animals, cannot have love for
anybody. After all it is the same mind. When you do not have sensitivity
and you can use the knife on one being, then how will you mind suddenly
become sensitive towards rest of the world? It is the same mind.<br />
<em>Love is possible only to a very clean and very pure mind.</em><br />
Others will know attraction and attachment but they will never know love. And that is their punishment.<br />
<em>The punishment of remaining conditioned is that you will never know love.</em><br />
You will live sixty years or hundred years, without even knowing a
moment of love. You can name other thing as love; you can fool yourself
by saying that, “I have a very loving family”. But the fact will be that
there will be no love.<br />
So forget love, look at the purity of mind. That is what you can do.<br />
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