Dear,
First of all we have to realize that what is it that we do to the company, and what is it that company does to us.
I am feeling lonely, and I get someone to be with. What will I do to that person? I will only use that person. I will use that person to fill my loneliness. That fellow will become a tool for me, a usable for me, a thing for me. And then if some other person can fill my loneliness better, then the other person would be better.
What is the purpose of this person’s presence in my life? What is the reason? Why has this person come in my life? Because I was feeling lonely. So loneliness is important. The person is really not important. Do you get this? The person is just a means to some end. What is the end? Getting rid of loneliness. Now, will I give freedom to this person?
I use this person. When I use somebody, then can I give him freedom? (Holding a mobile phone kept on the table) I use this, right? At this moment, if it wants to go and take a walk, will I allow it? Why will I not allow it? No, because I am using it. Because I am dependent on it. When you are dependent on somebody, then the relationship can never have love. Because in dependence, in an environment of dependence, there can be no freedom.
The more you depend, the more dangerous you become for the person you are dependent on.
You cannot have a healthy relationship when two people miss each other in their loneliness, when two people are financially dependent on each other, or when one of them is dependent on the other one. Or when one person is dependent on the other for reasons of security. If one fellow is providing the basic security, then this is just a relationship of ‘give and take’. There cannot be any love in it. There would be fear in it, and there would be violence in it, but there would be no love in it.
Once you really understand, then the right action happens on its own. Realization is the biggest power. Pay attention to your relationships. See what is at work when you are with somebody. And then, whatever is rotten, will automatically stop, and drop.
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First of all we have to realize that what is it that we do to the company, and what is it that company does to us.
I am feeling lonely, and I get someone to be with. What will I do to that person? I will only use that person. I will use that person to fill my loneliness. That fellow will become a tool for me, a usable for me, a thing for me. And then if some other person can fill my loneliness better, then the other person would be better.
What is the purpose of this person’s presence in my life? What is the reason? Why has this person come in my life? Because I was feeling lonely. So loneliness is important. The person is really not important. Do you get this? The person is just a means to some end. What is the end? Getting rid of loneliness. Now, will I give freedom to this person?
I use this person. When I use somebody, then can I give him freedom? (Holding a mobile phone kept on the table) I use this, right? At this moment, if it wants to go and take a walk, will I allow it? Why will I not allow it? No, because I am using it. Because I am dependent on it. When you are dependent on somebody, then the relationship can never have love. Because in dependence, in an environment of dependence, there can be no freedom.
The more you depend, the more dangerous you become for the person you are dependent on.
You cannot have a healthy relationship when two people miss each other in their loneliness, when two people are financially dependent on each other, or when one of them is dependent on the other one. Or when one person is dependent on the other for reasons of security. If one fellow is providing the basic security, then this is just a relationship of ‘give and take’. There cannot be any love in it. There would be fear in it, and there would be violence in it, but there would be no love in it.
Once you really understand, then the right action happens on its own. Realization is the biggest power. Pay attention to your relationships. See what is at work when you are with somebody. And then, whatever is rotten, will automatically stop, and drop.
To read more of it and various other questions I invite you to : www.prashantadvait.com
Q&A:
http://www.querynanswer.com/question/i-always-need-a-company-how-to-get-rid-of-this-dependence/
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