Dear,
Something happens and you get angry. We are looking at that event very, very closely. Something happens and you get angry. Let us give the whole thing a shape, a name, a face. Let us say that a stranger comes to you and says that you are stupid. And he says this in front of many people. On the other hand, a friend on whom you rely, a friend whom you trust, he comes to you in front of twenty people and says you are stupid. And you have great trust on that friend, great belief in that friend. When would you be angry? When are you likely to be angry? When are you likely to feel hurt? When the friend says this or when the stranger? The stranger is a nobody. You do not know him; just somebody. He has just come, said a few comments and gone. When are you likely to feel hurt?
When a friend says this. Right?
Remember, both have uttered the same words. Both of them have said that you are stupid, and both of them have said this in the same situation, in front of twenty people. But when do you feel hurt? When your friend says that. Right? Now let’s go into it. Why do you feel hurt and therefore angry when your friend says this? Why do you feel hurt when your friend says this and why not when the stranger says this?
Because you have expectations. See, had the reason of your anger been those words that you are stupid, had those words been the reason why you are angry, then you would have been equally angry at the friend and at the stranger as well. Right? So, words are not the reason. The reason is something else. What is the reason?
Expectation.
Expectations are the reason. You do not get angry at the event. You get angry at the expectations you have from him. Getting it? You do not get angry at anything other than your own expectations. When they are defeated, when they are frustrated, when your expectations are not fulfilled, that is the situation you call as ‘anger’. So, anger is the frustration of expectations. So if a fellow has a lot of expectations, what will happen to him? There will be chances of more and more…
For more clarity I invite you to visit : http://prashantadvait.com/2014/11/25/wha...
and http://prashantadvait.com/?s=anger
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