How can I stop being so self conscious?

Dear 

"Fear is the influence of others". 

First thing is that fear is the thought. The second thing is that thought is of the others. 

We are afraid of the others who are around us and for most of us; the others are the members of the family, friends and society. Are you getting it? First of all there is no fear in the action. When action prevails, there is no fear. There is action before the fear. In the think of the action, there is no fear. So, fear is the thought. 

Second thing is that thought is of others. Why must the thought of others make one afraid? It is strange. Is there any need to be afraid, when the thought of others arises? But surely, it terrifies us. Why does it terrify us? There is a reason. The reason is that there is a lot that he has taken from you. He is scared that what can be taken from you, can be taken away also. So, he is afraid. What he has taken from you is not his own, but a borrowed thing, and it can be taken away by you because it comes from you. 

Each one of us who experiences fear, must find out what really is his, and when he finds that out, fear is gone. Fear may come but it will remain on the surface. It will not touch you deep. It will not penetrate you deep. 

For more clarity read here http://prashantadvait.com/2014/04/04/fea...

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