Monday 29 June 2015

What is the way to overcome an addiction of someone you like?

Which is the best way to not overcome any addiction? Keep saying, ‘I want to overcome. And by doing so what exactly are you remembering! - the so called addiction. 

The mind very well knows what to forget or overcome. Do you remember everyone you have met even in last one week? 

So, how do you not allow the mind to overcome? By giving importance to that thing or person. The moment you take something seriously, it gets more deeply registered in the mind.  Till the time you keep valuing something, it will hover in your head. So don’t ask, ‘How to forget or overcome?’ Look for why have you given it so much importance.

And then there is another part to it. 
What or whom would you like? Why does liking someone happens only after attaining a certain age? Ever thought about it?

Well, it's nothing but just the body. There are chemicals called hormones. They get secreted in a particular age and the effect of those hormones is  what is called as love. It is actually as simple, as direct, as primitive  and as dead as hormones. Our love is these hormones. If these hormones are taken away from our  body, most of these love cases will disappear, totally disappear. And  if there is an excess of same hormones in body then you will become  extremely loving. Your addiction is nothing but activity of your hormones. There is no You in all that.

What does one like?  One that is in accordance  with ones value system of good. Where does the value system come from? Obviously, from the society.
“I like something and hence it is important for me.”  One likes anything or anyone that pleases him.

Take an example. In a match of India and Pakistan- What would and Indian like? And what would a Pakistani like? None of them has anything to do with the game really, but their belonging. Where does this belonging comes from? This is called social conditioning.

All your likings and addictions are result of your hormones and social conditioning. 

Don't fight with your addiction, that will only make you restless. Understand your addiction and they will be gone like a dark room being lighten and darkness goes off by itself.

I have written a lot on these life related issues in my blog Word into Silence. If you want to have better clarity, visit the blog.

RS

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