Dear,
A vulnerable mind will have a vulnerable relationship
The hurt is not coming from the loved ones, the hurt is coming from the shallow nature of the love itself. It is not the loved one that hurts, it is your fake love that hurts. Kindly do not unnecessarily put the blame on somebody else. What hurts you is that in spite of being the object of ‘my’ love, he hurt me!
Have you seen that if you are abused by a stranger and if you are abused by a loving friend, you obviously feel more hurt in case of the friend? Same words both of them have uttered to you, and yet you feel more hurt when the so-called friend says those words to you. ‘In spite of being my friend, he hurt me.’ It is the quality of your relationship that hurts you. The ego feels bad. ‘He is ‘my’ friend and he is behaving in this way. He is my loved one and he is doing this.’
Let it get fully hurt. Let it get so hurt that it is shredded down! Let it get so hurt that it is altogether destroyed! Let the hurt penetrate you fully. Getting it?
Yes, that is the reality. This is the quality of our love. Our love emanates not from the heart but from the mind. It is a very accidental love, it is a very reasonable love, it is a very calculative love. If the reasons go away, this love disappears. If the situations change, this love changes. There is no worth in this love anyway. The loved ones are not at all at fault. In fact, you do not know them. You know them only through the narrow tunnel of your relationship with them.
You know what is this tunnel vision? You do not know your so-called ‘loved ones’. Nobody does. We don’t know anything. How can we know a particular man or a woman? We do not know anything. And it is all the more difficult to know somebody when a so-called ‘relationship’ has been cemented. And then we blame them. They are not to be blamed, the quality of your relationship is to be blamed. There is nothing in this relationship except hurt, and it is a blessing that there is some hurt in this. Bad, woeful and terrible will be the day when this same relationship will stop hurting you, then your possibilities will be closed. Today at least there is something that is pinching you constantly, this may wake you up from your dream!
When a sleeping man is pricked and pinched, it may wake him up! Hurt is like that. A stage comes when with experience and time, you stop feeling hurt. You start thinking that it is normal. ‘O! My husband! Yes, it is normal.’ You don’t even feel hurt about the quality of the relationship. That is hell!
You know hell and heaven are alike, in the sense that at none of these places do people really get hurt. You go to heaven and ask somebody, ‘Are you hurt?’, he will say, ‘No, not really.’ You got to hell and you ask somebody, ‘Are you hurt?’, he will say, ‘No, not at all.’ But there is a difference. In heaven you will find people crying a lot. They would be hurt to the extent one can get hurt. But they will have something which cannot be hurt. Are you getting it?
In hell, nobody ever gets hurt. That is why it is hell. Hell is a very normal place, a well-adjusted and nicely compromised place. Like our regular homes. It’s all okay there. Do you think that hell consists of all these boiling cauldrons, ferocious animals and slave drivers who are coming and hitting you all the time? No, not really.
Hell is a very regular and normal place, like our society, like our homes. Nobody gets hurt there. You won’t find anybody crying there. In hell, nobody says, ‘I am hurt’, because they have become numb, insensitive, and dead. That is Hell! In heaven, nobody is actually hurt, even though they might be crying. Do you get the difference?
Go to heaven and you will find all the colours there. Somebody says something to somebody and he takes that with some pinch. Somebody is feeling bad, somebody is cracking a joke, somebody has a headache, all these things are happening, but there is solid core that cannot be touched or hurt. Hell? A deadness, which cannot be hurt.
In heaven, there is a core that cannot be hurt. In hell, there is a deadness that cannot be hurt. That is the difference between heaven and hell and that is also the commonality.
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